The Perfect Woman?

[jaymaximus]

I have a little bit of a problem. I am a serial "dater". But with every women I date (except one) I always find a problem. Like one might be everything but smart, or funny, or fit, driven, etc.

No matter what the problem is, I always find something and figure there's someone out there who doesnt have that problem (I once broke up with a great chick because she has a big forehead).

I dont think there's such thing as a perfect woman, but theres gotta be a woman perfect for me. The world is big as hell, and ive been around and back.

My question is did anyone else ever have this problem? How did you get past it? For anyone in a commited relationship, is your woman perfect or did you just over-look any "flaws"?

Is there such thing as being too picky?
(You see how picky I am about my shoes and they only go on my feet.)

 

[pumpingiron22]

Perfect is in the eye's of the beholder. When you find the one you overlook her flaws your in love.

 

[jaymaximus]

Perfect is in the eye's of the beholder. When you find the one you overlook her flaws your in love.

Its kind of a funny question I asked, because I thought I had. Everyone (including her friends) wondered why I was so into her, I just was. But she broke it off from me awhile back, so now im back at it again...

So let me ask this @pumpingiron22, if I do find a flaw, no matter how small, is that me telling me I dont really love her?

And can a man really love a woman? I mean a dog? Yes. Iron? Hell yes. A good steak? Of course. A woman? Maybe...

 

[jaymaximus]

It would NOT hurt if the woman looked like this

 

[gr8whitetrukker]

It would NOT hurt if the woman looked like this

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Oh ya?

Then what happens when she gets old and youths beauty isn't on her side?
What happens when she bears your children?
When she puts on weight that's hard to come off?
When there's permanent body changing events?

Your being a dick. A superficial dick.

 

[jaymaximus]

Oh ya?

Then what happens when she gets old and youths beauty isn't on her side?
What happens when she bears your children?
When she puts on weight that's hard to come off?
When there's permanent body changing events?

Your being a dick. A superficial dick.

I am. Even though the forehead thing was a bad example. 95% of the time its personality. But ill admit, I nitpick. And I think a lot of the time im actively looking for something wrong.

Its something Im trying to get over (and the reason for this thread).

Im gonna be 35 next month and I dont want to be old and alone because im being retarded when it comes to women.

 

[trying to get big]

For me the perfect woman is the one that makes you strive for greatness makes you want to do the best you can. That brings out your better qualities. And Vice
versa. My wife will not let me settle for sub par she makes want to go that extra mile. Not sure how helpful this is but take it or leave happy hunting for the one you'll eventually find her

 

[gr8whitetrukker]

I am. Even though the forehead thing was a bad example. 95% of the time its personality. But ill admit, I nitpick. And I think a lot of the time im actively looking for something wrong.

Its something Im trying to get over (and the reason for this thread).

Im gonna be 35 next month and I dont want to be old and alone because im being retarded when it comes to women.

I'm retarded in alot of ways in life but for whatever reason I never had an issue with keeping a woman. Been with mine since 5th grade? I'm 31 now
I think what really is impressive is when she can spit out 2 huge boys and look like she was at 18 again. Now that is impressive.

You know what? My chick has small tits. Doesn't bother me. In fact I prefer them. Why? Cuz there hers. Could it be better? I guess, I don't think of it that way.

 

[Ironman1980]

If you're picking out flaws that sound (most of the time) a little ridiculous then that makes me think one of two things:
1) You're looking for a way out bc you don't really like her or don't see it going further.
2) You're afraid of commitment.
Everyone has flaws, imperfections, etc...
When you find the right one, you'll know it man! It'll be like a feeling you've never felt.

 

[Xlgx]

First priority. Is she a 3 input woman? That's the start of a perfect woman

 

[pumpingiron22]

Just don't look for imperfections because everyone has them enjoy the ride and when I gets serious than ask your self if the flaws are worth ignoring. And go from there. But honestly my mom always taught me love is about how that person makes you feel about your self

 

[Wreck it Ralph]

I could over look any flaw except a big forehead.

The truth is when the person is right you will feel so good about yourself that making her feel good will be the most important thing in the world. You will not see flaws, just things that make her unique.....Hey, I hope you ain't really listening to advice about love and relationships from me? That would be like listening to AAS advice from Sworder.

 

[bornSkinny]

Im gonna be 35 next month and I dont want to be old and alone because im being retarded when it comes to women.

Not having a wife doesn't mean you have to feel alone.
I suggest seeking fulfillment in your life outside of romantic endeavors.
Only when you do will you come across people who will be truly meaningful to you in your life.
Gotta do you first, just my 2cents tho.

 

[OdieM]

My girl has a freckle on her butt. She also lets a fart slip if I get her laughing. Her imperfections are the things I like most about her.

 

[strongsafety41]

That big forehead issue says a lot. What's next; big forehead kids! No thanks. Just kidding.

As others have stated, when you find that someone special you're willing to overlook imperfections. She's that person that gives you strength when you're in need, that keeps you grounded and focused when you get off track. The funny thing is, you do it for her without even thinking twice about it.

Sure, you're going to find imperfections as you two continue to grow. Some are not a big deal, others are a challenge (in laws. But at the end of the day, it's the selfless act of you putting someone before yourself and enjoying doing it.

 

[Sampei]

As You can see everyone has a different opinion of what love is. That's normal, that's human.

You need to find your own love, whatever works for you jay... BUT what you are doing at the moment is keep telling a lie to yourself.

So take your time, talk to your inner self and make it straight. Don't keep going on the quest of finding a life companion when every inch of your skin scream the opposite.

Saying the truth is hard, you know what's harder? Accepting it.

If you want a relationship, you will have one, don't know if it will be great or miserable but you sure can "fall in love", you just need to allow it to happen

 

[jaymaximus]

Thanks for all the advice everyone. Thats why I come here. You can go anywhere and talk AAS and training, but its the extra stuff that keeps me at Meso.

And I believe what all y'all are saying. Ive actually been there once. Had someone who I thought was perfect. She was also my best friend. I guess after that ended Ive had a hard time believing I can find another one like her. Not the same as her, but the same connection.

Edit: no one feel bad for me. While im looking I fill the void by whoring myself out.

 

[CdnGuy]

Just remember jayMax

 

[mkulltra58]

When I first met my girl, I told all my friends that she was going to be my future ex-wife. Almost six years later, I still feel the same way.

 

[ironwill1951]

I see you living a lonely life, an old man living alone no kids no family,
growing old will not be pleasant for you,