Wanting What You Cant Have

[Senorman]

This thread reminds me of The Offspring song, Self Esteem:

I wrote her off for the tenth time today
And practiced all the things I would say
But she came over, I lost my nerve
I took her back and made her dessert
Now I know I'm being used
That's okay, man, ’cause I like the abuse
I know she's playing with me
That's okay ’cause I've got no self-esteem

We make plans to go out at night
I wait till two, then I turn out the light
This rejection's got me so low
If she keeps it up, I just might tell her so

 

[Demondosage]

Keep banging her until something serious comes along. Jesus you wanna end up with nothing? Use your head and stop being so irrational . U need to be a selfish asshole who only exists to bang her. Fuck dinner, why u wanna spend your money on the milk when u already have the how?

I think you need to explore domination and own that bitch. Then she will want to be around u more...seriously

 

[Sven_Northman]

Don't toot your own horn too much. You are on an internet chat room asking advice about how to deal with someone you are supposedly having sex with, which means you are in a bit of emotional trouble you seem unwilling to admit. Regardless of the arrangement and the official story you seem intent on pushing here I have bad news- you fell in love. Anyone so bent on "respect" as you are pretending to be here would have stopped calling the first time she blew you off- but instead you just "don't know" why you keep your disappointment private and keep eating shit... news flash. She has you wrapped. Someone who is just ass can be blocked without another word spoken- and instead you are agonizing about an approach and how and when you should cut it off? Lol. You are in trouble.

Sage advice indeed. Though I don't consider expressing appreciation for the lessons I've learned in this situation tooting my own horn. I appreciate the input but you come off a bit harsh. 'Its not necessary but like myself you're welcome to your opinion as this is an internet chat room. Supposedly having sex? Yeah okay I made all this up. Lol.

it seems that I've made this sound like I'm the only one interested in this situation with her. That's far from the truth. She's very affectionate towards me and texts me everyday. She's just kind of limited in her availability. And sometimes I feel like I'm the second option with her. I knew what I was getting into when I got into this and I got wrapped up in my emotions. Yes you're right,I was in love with her at one time but those feelings have dissipated long ago. I was angry when I started this post and was looking to vent and get advice like you have given. You are very insightful and I appreciate that. You don't need to be harsh aabout it, but it's fine. I don't take it personally.

It's not easy coming on here and opening up and making myself vulnerable. I'm not wired like most guys that just don't give a s***. I wish that I was wired that way. It frustrates me greatly. I'm always fighting against being the sensitive guy. I have a harder time with it. I've always struggled with it and I've tried really hard to get to that point of just not caring and moving on when she's playing hard-to-get and not treating me right. This is the first time this has happened in a very long time. It's usually the other way around. I'm less available and less interested in the girl.

Anyhow again I appreciate all the advice. Regardless of how it's given you guys are very insightful and it's been a great help to push me in the right direction.

Her and I are both really sick right now and when I get over this nasty cold and sore throat we're going to sit down and talk.

I've been with her going on three years now. It's easy to sit back and make assumptions about her, I, and what it's like between us. I get that. You don't know me personally only from a few posts on this forum.

I know deep in my subconscious what I need to do in this situation. And Im going to execute.

 

[Sven_Northman]

This thread reminds me of The Offspring song, Self Esteem:

I wrote her off for the tenth time today
And practiced all the things I would say
But she came over, I lost my nerve
I took her back and made her dessert
Now I know I'm being used
That's okay, man, ’cause I like the abuse
I know she's playing with me
That's okay ’cause I've got no self-esteem

We make plans to go out at night
I wait till two, then I turn out the light
This rejection's got me so low
If she keeps it up, I just might tell her so

Not even close to reality.

 

[Sven_Northman]

guess he gave up on his own thread

I didn't give up. Been busy with work, kids, life.

 

[HIGHRISK]

100.00000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000%

FIXED

 

[Oldschool]

Id go over, and fuck her brains out one last time (usw anything that helps you with that, you know that last crazily good fuck she will always remember. Do viagra or whatever).
Then after you nut, you pack your shit and tell you youre done with her (maybe make it seem like youve got another, better chick going now).

It will at least make her think about her past choices with you and mindfuck her a bit.

And then just dont respond to her shit anymore

Says the 20 sumthing year old with a limp dick. Get the fuck out of here. Youre getting on my nervje.

 

[HIGHRISK]

... Wanting what you can’t have

The title says it all. Do I ever feel your pain my friend. I wish u luck.

 

[MisterSuperGod]

Says the 20 sumthing year old with a limp dick. Get the fuck out of here. Youre getting on my nervje.

Now that was funny and clever. Well done, sir.

 

[Sven_Northman]

The title says it all. Do I ever feel your pain my friend. I wish u luck.

Thanks man. I've done some soul searching and have discovered I'm just not that into her any longer. Too much bullshit. I'm over it and not going to be controlled by anyone.

If she wants to stay around as FWB I'm fine with that. But no more than that and I will be dating other women when I'm feeling the urge. I sincerely hope she finds someone that she's actually in love with someday that fits what she's looking for. No hard feelings.

 

[HIGHRISK]

Thanks man. I've done some soul searching and have discovered I'm just not that into her any longer. Too much bullshit. I'm over it and not going to be controlled by anyone.

If she wants to stay around as FWB I'm fine with that. But no more than that and I will be dating other women when I'm feeling the urge. I sincerely hope she finds someone that she's actually in love with someday that fits what she's looking for. No hard feelings.

Good for you my friend. Wish u the best.

 

[KillaBig]

Keep banging her until something serious comes along. Jesus you wanna end up with nothing? Use your head and stop being so irrational . U need to be a selfish asshole who only exists to bang her. Fuck dinner, why u wanna spend your money on the milk when u already have the how?

I think you need to explore domination and own that bitch. Then she will want to be around u more...seriously

Read the first post, skipp’d to the last page read this post and realized it’s all you really need to hear

 

[Rockclimber]

Thanks man. I've done some soul searching and have discovered I'm just not that into her any longer. Too much bullshit. I'm over it and not going to be controlled by anyone.

If she wants to stay around as FWB I'm fine with that. But no more than that and I will be dating other women when I'm feeling the urge. I sincerely hope she finds someone that she's actually in love with someday that fits what she's looking for. No hard feelings.

She already has found someone she's in love with, that's the whole point. Whoever he is he is unavailable whether he is married or engaged or in a long-term relationship. She's waiting it out hoping to snag him but in the meantime she uses you for sexual and emotional relief. You said yourself that sometimes you feel like you're a second thought and that's because you are. I'm not trying to be harsh brother what I'm saying is she talks/texts this guy all day, she flirts with him, laughs with him and hooks up with him on occasion but there are certain times... in fact there are many times that he is not available to her because he is with his wife or girlfriend or whatever and that's when she calls you up. I have seen this a thousand times with married women and men alike.

 

[Rockclimber]

Let's look at it for scientifically. Women that are having physical Affairs cut off sex from their husband that is a fact. Many times when asked what it feels like to be touched by their husband they say it is repulsive and disgusting.

Women that are in emotional or long-distance Affairs frequently have sex with their husband more often. Why is this? It's because they are on the phone with their Affair partner chatting and they get all riled up and horny. Their Affair partner is either too far away to satisfy them or with someone else at the time so the woman either masturbates or goes to her husband for sex. But she's not thinking about her husband when she's having sex with him she's thinking about the affair partner. They've asked cheating wifes what they think about in these situations and the women respond that they either think about nothing and just focus on the feeling or they think about a specific time, a specific event that they had with the affair partner and they replay that in their minds when having sex with their husband. Seriously brother this is in a thousand books you should really just pick up a couple so you understand how women really operate. It will serve you well later on in life I promise you.

 

[rpbb]

Let's look at it for scientifically. Women that are having physical Affairs cut off sex from their husband that is a fact. Many times when asked what it feels like to be touched by their husband they say it is repulsive and disgusting.

Women that are in emotional or long-distance Affairs frequently have sex with their husband more often. Why is this? It's because they are on the phone with their Affair partner chatting and they get all riled up and horny. Their Affair partner is either too far away to satisfy them or with someone else at the time so the woman either masturbates or goes to her husband for sex. But she's not thinking about her husband when she's having sex with him she's thinking about the affair partner. They've asked cheating wifes what they think about in these situations and the women respond that they either think about nothing and just focus on the feeling or they think about a specific time, a specific event that they had with the affair partner and they replay that in their minds when having sex with their husband. Seriously brother this is in a thousand books you should really just pick up a couple so you understand how women really operate. It will serve you well later on in life I promise you.

Never saw these books, got any recommendations, I'm truly interested

 

[Rockclimber]

Never saw these books, got any recommendations, I'm truly interested

The most recent one I read was:
The Secret Life of the Cheating Wife: Power, Pragmatism, and Pleasure in Women's Infidelity
By Alicia Walker Ph.D

There are a ton of them if you just type in why do women cheat why do men cheat into Google and you'll see tons of books pop-up they're almost all the same though humans are pretty predictable I guess LOL

 

[Oldschool]

She already has found someone she's in love with, that's the whole point. Whoever he is he is unavailable whether he is married or engaged or in a long-term relationship. She's waiting it out hoping to snag him but in the meantime she uses you for sexual and emotional relief. You said yourself that sometimes you feel like you're a second thought and that's because you are. I'm not trying to be harsh brother what I'm saying is she talks/texts this guy all day, she flirts with him, laughs with him and hooks up with him on occasion but there are certain times... in fact there are many times that he is not available to her because he is with his wife or girlfriend or whatever and that's when she calls you up. I have seen this a thousand times with married women and men alike.

How ironic she wants what she cant have too!
Serves her right. Send that fucking bitch to that asswipe @balco .

 

[Rockclimber]

How ironic she wants what she cant have too!
Serves her right. Send that fucking bitch to that asswipe @balco .

And if she did finally get him, if he left his girlfriend/wife for her she would find out after a few years that she was bored of him too... ready to move on to the new "next big thing" aka the grass is always greener on the other side.
It's funny how when we were younger we heard our grandparents say this stuff and we rolled our eyes. Now that we're older we realize they were facing the same things that we are. Infidelity, cheating wives and husbands and of course fighting off Hitler. I guess times could be worse, we dont have to fight Hitler.

 

[Sven_Northman]

She already has found someone she's in love with, that's the whole point. Whoever he is he is unavailable whether he is married or engaged or in a long-term relationship. She's waiting it out hoping to snag him but in the meantime she uses you for sexual and emotional relief. You said yourself that sometimes you feel like you're a second thought and that's because you are. I'm not trying to be harsh brother what I'm saying is she talks/texts this guy all day, she flirts with him, laughs with him and hooks up with him on occasion but there are certain times... in fact there are many times that he is not available to her because he is with his wife or girlfriend or whatever and that's when she calls you up. I have seen this a thousand times with married women and men alike.

Dude you're dead fucking wrong. She is 100% honest with me and I her .Dont make assumptions about situations you don't know shit about.

 

[Sven_Northman]

Let's look at it for scientifically. Women that are having physical Affairs cut off sex from their husband that is a fact. Many times when asked what it feels like to be touched by their husband they say it is repulsive and disgusting.

Women that are in emotional or long-distance Affairs frequently have sex with their husband more often. Why is this? It's because they are on the phone with their Affair partner chatting and they get all riled up and horny. Their Affair partner is either too far away to satisfy them or with someone else at the time so the woman either masturbates or goes to her husband for sex. But she's not thinking about her husband when she's having sex with him she's thinking about the affair partner. They've asked cheating wifes what they think about in these situations and the women respond that they either think about nothing and just focus on the feeling or they think about a specific time, a specific event that they had with the affair partner and they replay that in their minds when having sex with their husband. Seriously brother this is in a thousand books you should really just pick up a couple so you understand how women really operate. It will serve you well later on in life I promise you.

Let me give you some advice. What you think about you bring about. If you think your wife is going to cheat on you she probably will. I've been in a lot of relationships and I've never been cheated on. You might say all that bullshit.. Well I tend to find women that would do anything for me. And would never think twice about doing something like that. But hey who am I to say that she hasn't. I don't know. I've never cheated on her because it's just not my style. In this day and age that shits just too risky.

if a man has a cheating wife it's probably because he's not being the same man she fell in love with.. That's not always the case but sometimes men in relationships just get complacent. They stop being the man that the woman fell in love with in the beginning. It goes both ways .