Anyone else have a family that hardly communicates but then wants to have a holiday get-together?

[Demondosage]

I may sound like sort of an asshole here, but I have a hard time having parents and siblings that don’t communicate with me but then want to have a holiday celebration together like life is fucking peachy!

It’s like you assholes can’t answer a call or a text, I have brothers I speak to maybe twice a year because everyone is just too busy to be bothered, but rest assured that if it’s a holiday we are supposed to get together like nobody missed a beat and we just pick up where we left off. It all just feels like some bullshit formality at this point.

Anyone else ever feel this way?

 

[shartking]

I may sound like sort of an asshole here, but I have a hard time having parents and siblings that don’t communicate with me but then want to have a holiday celebration together like life is fucking peachy!

It’s like you assholes can’t answer a call or a text, I have brothers I speak to maybe twice a year because everyone is just too busy to be bothered, but rest assured that if it’s a holiday we are supposed to get together like nobody missed a beat and we just pick up where we left off. It all just feels like some bullshit formality at this point.

Anyone else ever feel this way?

I have no family, so I can't relate.

 

[Demondosage]

I have no family, so I can't relate.

I’m sorry to hear that, and I get it, I shouldn’t be resentful like I am but it’s sort of along the lines of at least try to keep in contact while you have ppl. That’s all I’m getting at here

 

[shartking]

I’m sorry to hear that, and I get it, I shouldn’t be resentful like I am but it’s sort of along the lines of at least try to keep in contact while you have ppl. That’s all I’m getting at here

You have to keep your peace at whatever cost. If they don't bring you joy, cut them loose.

 

[may2021]

I may sound like sort of an asshole here, but I have a hard time having parents and siblings that don’t communicate with me but then want to have a holiday celebration together like life is fucking peachy!

It’s like you assholes can’t answer a call or a text, I have brothers I speak to maybe twice a year because everyone is just too busy to be bothered, but rest assured that if it’s a holiday we are supposed to get together like nobody missed a beat and we just pick up where we left off. It all just feels like some bullshit formality at this point.

Anyone else ever feel this way?

Move out of state. Problem solved.

I endured the same thing for decades.

However, my bros are extremely great and very busy guys.
It's the wives and all the bullshit they bring that was intolerable.

 

[Demondosage]

Move out of state. Problem solved.

I endured the same thing for decades.

However, my bros are extremely great and very busy guys.
It's the wives and all the bullshit they bring that was intolerable.

That’s the issue, it’s usually the bitches they’re with that change them

 

[Deleted member 134759]

I may sound like sort of an asshole here, but I have a hard time having parents and siblings that don’t communicate with me but then want to have a holiday celebration together like life is fucking peachy!

It’s like you assholes can’t answer a call or a text, I have brothers I speak to maybe twice a year because everyone is just too busy to be bothered, but rest assured that if it’s a holiday we are supposed to get together like nobody missed a beat and we just pick up where we left off. It all just feels like some bullshit formality at this point.

Anyone else ever feel this way?

I feel the same way.

My siblings literally never text me. I text them once a month or so and get a 3 word reply. Then they text me on holidays “hey how come you didn’t come over?” Uhh maybe try picking up the phone once per year and I might.

I spend the holidays doing what I enjoy doing, instead of faking a smile and pretending I give a fuck about people who don’t have 5 minutes a year to say hello to me.

 

[Demondosage]

I feel the same way.

My siblings literally never text me. I text them once a month or so and get a 3 word reply. Then they text me on holidays “hey how come you didn’t come over?” Uhh maybe try picking up the phone once per year and I might.

I spend the holidays doing what I enjoy doing, instead of faking a smile and pretending I give a fuck about people who don’t have 5 minutes a year to say hello to me.

Same thing, I’ll send numerous messages to maybe get a 3 word reply once every 10x. It’s sort of insulting at this point

 

[narta]

The "it's your family you have to do this" died a long time ago. Spend the time with your loved ones, family or not. Fuck the rest, family or not.

 

[Big_paul]

I may sound like sort of an asshole here, but I have a hard time having parents and siblings that don’t communicate with me but then want to have a holiday celebration together like life is fucking peachy!

It’s like you assholes can’t answer a call or a text, I have brothers I speak to maybe twice a year because everyone is just too busy to be bothered, but rest assured that if it’s a holiday we are supposed to get together like nobody missed a beat and we just pick up where we left off. It all just feels like some bullshit formality at this point.

Anyone else ever feel this way?

Seems normal.

 

[Demondosage]

Update: things went better than anticipated. My youngest brother came by my house the night before and we got drunk together and hashed some things out and buried the hatchet. Had a good Christmas besides for getting Covid again, but family went smooth and I feel like a weight has been lifted off me!! Here’s to a good 2023