Good experiences with women. Do they exist?

[trtbuilder]

Lot of butthurt men in the replies.

We can care about women's mental health without abandoning men.

I was pointing out that women's addiction patterns are different. Maybe read it again.

I reread it. It's just as dumb. Sorry I destroyed you in 1 sentence and you have nothing to refute it with.

 

[bananafeet]

I reread it. It's just as dumb. Sorry I destroyed you in 1 sentence and you have nothing to refute it with.

I said that women experience mental illness. Somehow you've invalidated that with the male suicide rate?

I guess I've been destroyed then...

 

[trtbuilder]

I said that women experience mental illness. Somehow you've invalidated that with the male suicide rate?

I guess I've been destroyed then...

I mean, your entire post is basically saying that women are a problem because they're more mentally ill, more likely to use drugs and alcohol and more likely to be secretive.

None of that holds up when you see that men are actually much higher users of dtugs and alcohol and men are four times as likely to die of suicide. I wonder why they go for suicide? Because we are told to be a man and most never learn how to communicate in a healthy way which also leads to more secrecy and lies.

Basically you made a flawed argument that doesn't hold up under even the slightest scrutiny and now you're trying to backpedal.

 

[bananafeet]

I mean, your entire post is basically saying that women are a problem because they're more mentally ill, more likely to use drugs and alcohol and more likely to be secretive.

None of that holds up when you see that men are actually much higher users of dtugs and alcohol and men are four times as likely to die of suicide. I wonder why they go for suicide? Because we are told to be a man and most never learn how to communicate in a healthy way which also leads to more secrecy and lies.

Basically you made a flawed argument that doesn't hold up under even the slightest scrutiny and now you're trying to backpedal.

I said the mental health is deteriorating in women.

Due to the nature of their addiction and behaviour it's less visible and less outwardly destructive so it gets less attention.

Mental health in men has always been an issue but the rate hasn't gotten worse.

 

[gainslol]

Mental health in men has always been an issue but the rate hasn't gotten worse.

That's like focusing on a slow leak in a boat when there's a gaping hole taking in a ton of water.

Sure we can acknowledge both but that's actually the problem in its current form, the majority of what's acknowledged and addressed is women's struggles, while men are suffering more severely and at a higher lethality.

I get what you're trying to say but I see this same thing happen anytime the struggles of men get mentioned. It's that whole "well women have it difficult too" that sidelines the topic at hand.

Many women (not all) will do this all the time when they say things like: "Oh because men don't cheat on women" or "right, because men can't be toxic" and "so you're saying that men don't ..." etc.

It's a form of bringing the focus back to women (whom society currently considers to be the bigger victim who need to be protected at all cost, even if that means at the cost of men).

 

[aromatizer]

women are just dudes with vaginas

BZZZT. yeah...nah bro. recipe for disaster.

 

[bananafeet]

That's like focusing on a slow leak in a boat when there's a gaping hole taking in a ton of water.

Sure we can acknowledge both but that's actually the problem in its current form, the majority of what's acknowledged and addressed is women's struggles, while men are suffering more severely and at a higher lethality.

I get what you're trying to say but I see this same thing happen anytime the struggles of men get mentioned. It's that whole "well women have it difficult too" that sidelines the topic at hand.

Many women (not all) will do this all the time when they say things like: "Oh because men don't cheat on women" or "right, because men can't be toxic" and "so you're saying that men don't ..." etc.

It's a form of bringing the focus back to women (whom society currently considers to be the bigger victim who need to be protected at all cost, even if that means at the cost of men).

You are looking at the issue in a binary way and saying "if men are worse off women must be winning".

In fact the truth is much more sinister. If men suffer women suffer, if women suffer men suffer.

The women who caused me the most trauma when I look back had very big mental issues themselves. Self harm, alcoholism, bisexuality, food addiction etc etc

The point of that lady in the videos was the breakdown of the family unit has exposed more children to trauma and abuse.

I don't see how what I'm saying is controversial.

 

[Superchicken]

Yes good women do still exist. I also know the bpd ones but my wife is the complete opposite. She is kind, loyal, takes care of the household and so on, the only "downside" is her kind of low sex drive. I still get a satisfactory amount of sex so it's really all good. It is actually nice when I am away on a business trip for two weeks that I don't have to work that she gets horny and wants to get some... She hates parties or gatherings and enjoys being at home going to bed early and living a quiet life. I love her for being that way and enjoy providing the quiet life for her that she wants.

Depending on her age, low libido could be declining hormones. Testosterone begins to drop off in the 30’s, perimenopause can begin mid 30s, or any history of birth control can contribute. There’s also possibility of thyroid disorders, common in midlife women and will affect libido as well. For all of these things, finding proper care can be tricky because drs see anything in range as acceptable without taking symptoms into consideration.

As a woman who genuinely loves my husband, it made me feel like shit that the desire wasn’t there for me. I never regretted having sex, but I did wish a lot that I wanted it more often. (This wasn’t ever pressure or made to be an issue from him.) I’d always had a solid libido, but hormones and thyroid fucked me with zero warning. Hrt/trt was such an easy fix that it pisses me off to have gone years being told everything was fine.

 

[Billbo98]

Great experiences with

 

[HeatherSwanson]

Yes good women do still exist. I also know the bpd ones but my wife is the complete opposite. She is kind, loyal, takes care of the household and so on, the only "downside" is her kind of low sex drive. I still get a satisfactory amount of sex so it's really all good. It is actually nice when I am away on a business trip for two weeks that I don't have to work that she gets horny and wants to get some... She hates parties or gatherings and enjoys being at home going to bed early and living a quiet life. I love her for being that way and enjoy providing the quiet life for her that she wants.

This is my girl to a T. However, when we got together I made the statement "I have sex 6-7 times a week. I will not yield in this. You do not own my dick you have first dibs."

I had to remind her once about 2 years ago. Unless she's sick or injured, its happening.

I didn't work like a dog for 20+ years to dominate every single aspect of my life to build all the things then provide all the things and then NOT get a minimal aspect of what I want. Bills taken care of, drive a nice car, live in beautiful home, cpl trips a year, savings, dinners out, boat ect... She can damn well put out for 10 minuets everyday.

If you're not getting as much ad you'd like, ask yourself this... If (insert her hottest most favorite celebrity crush here, and don't say she doesn't have one, everyone does) walked in with a hall pass in hand... Would she be ready to go and then you understand in the deepest part of you that the answer is yes... Then you can get mad like I did and arrange your life to get what you want ... After the divorce in my case.

Best of luck!

 

[HeatherSwanson]

Can you please read the comment I made above to nawot and weigh in with female opinion? I'm interested to see what you have to say.

Mind sharing more about what you did to get libido back?

Depending on her age, low libido could be declining hormones. Testosterone begins to drop off in the 30’s, perimenopause can begin mid 30s, or any history of birth control can contribute. There’s also possibility of thyroid disorders, common in midlife women and will affect libido as well. For all of these things, finding proper care can be tricky because drs see anything in range as acceptable without taking symptoms into consideration.

As a woman who genuinely loves my husband, it made me feel like shit that the desire wasn’t there for me. I never regretted having sex, but I did wish a lot that I wanted it more often. (This wasn’t ever pressure or made to be an issue from him.) I’d always had a solid libido, but hormones and thyroid fucked me with zero warning. Hrt/trt was such an easy fix that it pisses me off to have gone years being told everything was fine.