Mirena Sex Drive

[Juced]

I also want to add that in my last relationship i had pretty much no sex for 7 years.. a few times a YEAR... when it did happen it was grate and she always came first ( i made sure). so its not sucky sex. but her mental state just wasnt there and depression can wreak havoc on sex drive. she was not on any sort of birth control and has no kids , yet the sex drive was not there (except the first few months of relationship)
is she going through anything?

 

[Flabby]

personally i rec avoiding birth control drugs but thats just me.. (liver toxticity thats unspoken about, sides, pretty much all the bad)
try another maybe. or use condom and actually have sex (must be better than non). or one of you get fixed if kids are not someting you want (be 100% sure).

this is NOT 100% and althoug deca has been researched as a possible MALE contriceptive... I have been on hrt for years and deca on cycle and on hrt (low dose) for years off and on (for deca) and I have not got my fiance preg, and im talking ALOT of sex and a 3rd of the time busting inside. mind you im in the state that if a kid comes thats great and no biggie as i do want kids sometime. if you DO NOT want kids then dont try it as i know others on hrt and even on big cycles that have got the gf preggo.
if its not a big point and doesnt matter much then hey, maybe hrt dose test + low deca is an option.

ps, i do not use HCG. i may have 10 kids right now if i did hahaha

Well, Mirena is an insert, and so is her new one. We used to do it 3-4 times a day. Down to once every 1-2 weeks lol..

 

[Flabby]

I am thinking it's just stemming from weight gain which .. well .. sucks lol. I make sure she knows she's beautiful (because she is) and I swoon over her every time she gets naked. She's just put sex so far on the back burner it's been put in the microwave and forgotten about.

 

[Flabby]

Being 21 and on 600-1000mg of test a week.... No sex sucks. And I'm doing NoFap. It's made worse by her saying she wants this and that and she wants me and this and that then just never actually wants to do it. I can't even try coming onto her anymore. Seems annoyed by it at this point. And I'm not talking about "hand in pants come upstairs and let's fuck", I'm saying if I just try holding her and kissing her or something simple she just gets annoyed with it, or so it seems. She says she's not annoyed but talk about a downer. Makes me feel unwanted when Grey's Anatomy and Facebook are more important than me

 

[Juced]

Being 21 and on 600-1000mg of test a week.... No sex sucks. And I'm doing NoFap. It's made worse by her saying she wants this and that and she wants me and this and that then just never actually wants to do it. I can't even try coming onto her anymore. Seems annoyed by it at this point. And I'm not talking about "hand in pants come upstairs and let's fuck", I'm saying if I just try holding her and kissing her or something simple she just gets annoyed with it, or so it seems. She says she's not annoyed but talk about a downer. Makes me feel unwanted when Grey's Anatomy and Facebook are more important than me

have you told her it makes you feel kinda unwanted and unattractive?
is she aware that this is even going on and that sex has changed or is in her mind everything the same?
because my last relationship that i had sex 4 times a year (if that) she seemed to think it was normal and she just stressed out or not feeling sexy...
sex is NOT the most important part of any relationship, but it does have its importance and is a factor in happiness..

I know iPT-141 (a peptide) raises libido in man AND women. its injection though and im not sure if she would even like the idea. but just tossing it out there.
even some counseling might help because although hormones play a part, the mind itself can be the biggest factor in no libido IMO

 

[Flabby]

have you told her it makes you feel kinda unwanted and unattractive?
is she aware that this is even going on and that sex has changed or is in her mind everything the same?
because my last relationship that i had sex 4 times a year (if that) she seemed to think it was normal and she just stressed out or not feeling sexy...
sex is NOT the most important part of any relationship, but it does have its importance and is a factor in happiness..

I know iPT-141 (a peptide) raises libido in man AND women. its injection though and im not sure if she would even like the idea. but just tossing it out there.
even some counseling might help because although hormones play a part, the mind itself can be the biggest factor in no libido IMO

Yeah we've talked a lot about it. We thought it was the mirena (which we ditched in like January) but it's just like pulling teeth. She'll text me and flirt with me all day which is fun but anytime I touch her or try coming on it's just a "no,...." followed by some reason why not.. Kids awake, she's not clean, she just wants to hang out, etc. Obviously it's not all about sex. I hate jerking off because it's just not enjoyable anymore now that I found someone I love. We spend every moment together. We do everything together. I'm the only man that's ever been in her life like this and wants to raise her son (I'm only 21 and shes 27). But yeah.. We've talked and she says okay we'll have more sex.. Doesn't happen. It's gotten to the point where I have to ask because I literally feel rejected by my own girlfriend when I come on. So getting a literal "no" is just a little easier on me I guess.

 

[Sampei]

Yeah we've talked a lot about it. We thought it was the mirena (which we ditched in like January) but it's just like pulling teeth. She'll text me and flirt with me all day which is fun but anytime I touch her or try coming on it's just a "no,...." followed by some reason why not.. Kids awake, she's not clean, she just wants to hang out, etc. Obviously it's not all about sex. I hate jerking off because it's just not enjoyable anymore now that I found someone I love. We spend every moment together. We do everything together. I'm the only man that's ever been in her life like this and wants to raise her son (I'm only 21 and shes 27). But yeah.. We've talked and she says okay we'll have more sex.. Doesn't happen. It's gotten to the point where I have to ask because I literally feel rejected by my own girlfriend when I come on. So getting a literal "no" is just a little easier on me I guess.

She wants to dump you or has another person that fucks her or she doesn't love you/feel attracted to you anymore or just the three options all together.

I would seriously question the whole relationship, you don't go from having sex 3-4 times a day to whatever is happening now... sex can slow down, but if there is no interested from her part... well something serious is OFF and I mean something REALLY REALLY FUCKING SERIOUS.

Hormones? Well it could be, go and get her checked out, at least you know if it's medical or not.

 

[Flabby]

She wants to dump you or has another person that fucks her or she doesn't love you/feel attracted to you anymore or just the three options all together.

I would seriously question the whole relationship, you don't go from having sex 3-4 times a day to whatever is happening now... sex can slow down, but if there is no interested from her part... well something serious is OFF and I mean something REALLY REALLY FUCKING SERIOUS.

Hormones? Well it could be, go and get her checked out, at least you know if it's medical or not.

I really don't think she is. And that's not me being naive. We literally spend every waking moment together. But it is always a possibility. And it's not like a sudden thing. It's been gradual over the past several months. That was my thought, too.

 

[Sampei]

I really don't think she is. And that's not me being naive. We literally spend every waking moment together. But it is always a possibility. And it's not like a sudden thing. It's been gradual over the past several months. That was my thought, too.

she maybe don't love you anymore. That's a thing that happen overtime not just in a day. Do you study? Does she work?

 

[Wunderpus]

To bump this a bit-

My girl has been on nuvaring for the last 5 years, at least, and she loves it. Never caused her to lose her sex drive or give her any negative sides. The only issue is I prefer it out during sex, but it's no huge deal.

 

[Flabby]

To bump this a bit-

My girl has been on nuvaring for the last 5 years, at least, and she loves it. Never caused her to lose her sex drive or give her any negative sides. The only issue is I prefer it out during sex, but it's no huge deal.

I poked the shit out of her Mirena, but I don't feel this new copper insert. Her periods are a bitch though. I think the Mirena fucked her testosterone up. She literally told me last night she pretty much has no interest in sex anymore and she's on primo/var too... Fucked my head up. It ain't about getting my rocks off. If it was I wouldn't care ya know?

 

[Wunderpus]

That really sucks man, I'm not sure how I'd feel in that position. Have her look in to nuvaring, but first do some bloods and maybe have her go to a new OB/GYN>

 

[Flabby]

That really sucks man, I'm not sure how I'd feel in that position. Have her look in to nuvaring, but first do some bloods and maybe have her go to a new OB/GYN>

I said something to her last night about how it upsets me and how she literally doesn't respond to me sexually anymore and hasn't for months. Pretty much just ignored it. Like it's not all about sex, but when it gets to the point where it makes you feel unattractive and unwanted, it pretty much sucks. I sound like a woman but damn lol

 

[Wunderpus]

I said something to her last night about how it upsets me and how she literally doesn't respond to me sexually anymore and hasn't for months. Pretty much just ignored it. Like it's not all about sex, but when it gets to the point where it makes you feel unattractive and unwanted, it pretty much sucks. I sound like a woman but damn lol

No I get it man. The physical connection is much deeper than just busting a load. It should show her that you're sensitive too, and that it makes a big difference in both of your lives. I would start to discuss how you've noticed a change, and that it's not fair to her either.

Good luck on this one, it's certainly unfair to you both.

 

[Flabby]

No I get it man. The physical connection is much deeper than just busting a load. It should show her that you're sensitive too, and that it makes a big difference in both of your lives. I would start to discuss how you've noticed a change, and that it's not fair to her either.

Good luck on this one, it's certainly unfair to you both.

I just want my girl back

 

[Wunderpus]

I just want my girl back

I get it, tell her that. She should understand that!

 

[Flabby]

I get it, tell her that. She should understand that!

She won't. She'll go on about sex isn't the only thing that matters and "sometimes I just want to relax and watch tv" which we do.. every. night. I've got to accept it I guess and deal with the fact that I'm only going to get laid twice a month at most lol

 

[Thenewera]

I just want my girl back

Have you just said fuck it and grabbed her and pinned her down? Okay that may of came out wrong but seriously. Might work.

 

[Flabby]

I was hoping that when she stopped drinking she'd want to, then it was when she started her cycle because she should be super horny all the time according to EVERY review of primo/var, now i'm hoping it'll be when she loses her weight but it won't be. It's been pretty dry since probably August. We just now celebrated our 1 year together and if I didn't practically beg for sex we probably wouldn't have

 

[Flabby]

Have you just said fuck it and grabbed her and pinned her down? Okay that may of came out wrong but seriously. Might work.

Many times. I'll mope around and then mentally i'm like "fuck dude be a man and take back your girl". But nope. You'd think that'd be like, sexy or a turn on but it's just "never the right time". we either need to shower, or cook, or literally any excuse to get out of it. she's not masturbating either so I can rule out that it isn't that she doesn't want me, she just doesn't want it. But mentally, being rejected by your girlfriend that you're madly in love with fucking hurts sometimes. Really makes you feel like less of a man