The only way for an alcoholic or an addict to be definitively diagnosed is self diagnosis. You are not truly an addict and/or alcoholic until you say you are. I get what odie is saying but after watching my mother get clean and living in that and spending 20 years since my first rehab trying to stay clean I have almost 30 years being around people in the program. I learned one thing- trying to convince someone they are an addict or alcoholic is the biggest waste of time on earth. Even if they are admitting addiction, begging for help and half dead they will have a tough time- situations where they are unsure need to be taught lessons by drugs and alcohol- not people. Maybe it will kill em, but either way they aren't using anymore. To each his own.