Death, do us part.

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So, I've been dragging my feet on this one for a while now. Not sure why but maybe I'm afraid of the answer I might get. There are men and woman on here who are older or much older who may have experience with this.

I wrote a big story but can't give away to much info and I was. Lost both my parents in 2016 and both of their businesses, homes, vehicles and property went to probate. Talk about a year of non stop work. Anything that could have went wrong, went wrong. Didn't have time to morn my parents deaths being so busy. Didn't even cry at their funerals. I have a friend that said after loosing his dad he pulled into the driveway and cried for like 2 hours.

I have this numbness that won't go away. Don't know how to feel or what to do about it really. Any thoughts or suggestions will be greatly appreciated.
 
you have to find time to deal with it, I lost both my parents as well and ill tell you confronting something like that is hard, probably one of the hardest things i ever went through. Talking about it definitely helps but if you keep yourself busy and never address it, its not going to go away, it will only manifest into something else, possibly something bad. Need to make some time for yourself.
 
I lost my Dad last year. Was the hardest thing I had to go through. I still feel like I ignore the pain by trying my best not to think about it. Its very hard losing someone close to you, and everyone deals with it differently. You have to try your best to keep moving forward in life no matter how hard things get.

Its ok to cry and miss your parents, its ok to go to the grave and talk to them and say goodbye and how you feel. But just know they will always be with you. And I believe one day you will meet them again.

Feel free to PM me anytime, I feel your pain and I still have that numbness. I know the pain will never go away but as time goes on you learn how to deal with it a little better.
 
you have to find time to deal with it, I lost both my parents as well and ill tell you confronting something like that is hard, probably one of the hardest things i ever went through. Talking about it definitely helps but if you keep yourself busy and never address it, its not going to go away, it will only manifest into something else, possibly something bad. Need to make some time for yourself.
Right before my dad passed I knew I needed a vacation. Never had to be before. I'm doing what I can to set myself up for it. I want to leave my cell at home for this vacation too. No phone calls, no work. My gf is pretty good at listening. She said the same thing you did.
 
I lost my Dad last year. Was the hardest thing I had to go through. I still feel like I ignore the pain by trying my best not to think about it. Its very hard losing someone close to you, and everyone deals with it differently. You have to try your best to keep moving forward in life no matter how hard things get.

Its ok to cry and miss your parents, its ok to go to the grave and talk to them and say goodbye and how you feel. But just know they will always be with you. And I believe one day you will meet them again.

Feel free to PM me anytime, I feel your pain and I still have that numbness. I know the pain will never go away but as time goes on you learn how to deal with it a little better.
Thanks, brother. I realized about a month ago that dealing with their deaths will get easier but will never be easy. I can only imagine how my grandmother feels. Lost both her son's in a year and her dog and my grandfather. [emoji26] When it rains, it pours.
 
You gotta make time for grieving man or it will hit you like a ton of bricks randomly at work or some shit.
I watched my best friend of 21 years take his last breaths on a hospital bed last year, litterally nurses and everyone was crying I was the only one that wasn't.
We all grieve differently, you don't necessarily have to cry, but you do have to make time for it.
 
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Thanks, brother. I realized about a month ago that dealing with their deaths will get easier but will never be easy. I can only imagine how my grandmother feels. Lost both her son's in a year and her dog and my grandfather. [emoji26] When it rains, it pours.

Thats usually what happens, when its bad its bad. Lost my Dad and a storm destroyed my house around the same time.

Life is too short to be depressed all the time. I try my best to keep myself busy, it helps me deal with it. My mind races when I'm not doing anything.

If I'm not on here, I'm working 2 different jobs, at the gym, eating, with my girl, or sleeping. I give my self no time to think. Its my way of dealing with it.
 
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So, I've been dragging my feet on this one for a while now. Not sure why but maybe I'm afraid of the answer I might get. There are men and woman on here who are older or much older who may have experience with this.

I wrote a big story but can't give away to much info and I was. Lost both my parents in 2016 and both of their businesses, homes, vehicles and property went to probate. Talk about a year of non stop work. Anything that could have went wrong, went wrong. Didn't have time to morn my parents deaths being so busy. Didn't even cry at their funerals. I have a friend that said after loosing his dad he pulled into the driveway and cried for like 2 hours.

I have this numbness that won't go away. Don't know how to feel or what to do about it really. Any thoughts or suggestions will be greatly appreciated.
Hey man, I'm a medical student. And from what I've seen we use up our brain neurotransmitters and minerals during stress.

We need to replace them with single amino acids and magnesium, lithium orotate SUPPLEMENTS not scrips.

This fixed my disorders, hope it helps
 
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I lost my folks three months apart. That was 18 years ago. I still miss them. My dad was my hero and so much of what I do now is to try and be more like him. He was a bodybuilder and a smart ass.

You don't get over the loss. You just get used to it.
 
I lost my folks three months apart. That was 18 years ago. I still miss them. My dad was my hero and so much of what I do now is to try and be more like him. He was a bodybuilder and a smart ass.

You don't get over the loss. You just get used to it.
Both my parents were into body building. Used AAS and did a lot of coke before I was born. That's funny cause I try and do things the way my dad would. Even though I'm always told I look, act and sound just like my dad.
My dad always got me a really good shit and then I had to start looking on here. He got it for me so I wouldn't get in trouble.
 
Man, when I lost my dad it really sucked all I did was turn to alcohol and coke everyday nonstop and basically alienated myself from everyone. I'm finally clean and let me tell you that was a horrible experience, lost some friends but things are much better now. Like someone said earlier go to their Graves and talk to them. I bet you anything that will help you. Good luck bro
 
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Man, when I lost my dad it really sucked all I did was turn to alcohol and coke everyday nonstop and basically alienated myself from everyone. I'm finally clean and let me tell you that was a horrible experience, lost some friends but things are much better now. Like someone said earlier go to their Graves and talk to them. I bet you anything that will help you. Good luck bro
Thanks. I just spoke to both my bosses about using my vacation, sick and PTO time all in a row. They're not happy to say the least. We went round and round in circles. They told me to come Beck again tomrw after 1hr of calmly debating it. ... I think they'll come through.
 
So, I've been dragging my feet on this one for a while now. Not sure why but maybe I'm afraid of the answer I might get. There are men and woman on here who are older or much older who may have experience with this.

I wrote a big story but can't give away to much info and I was. Lost both my parents in 2016 and both of their businesses, homes, vehicles and property went to probate. Talk about a year of non stop work. Anything that could have went wrong, went wrong. Didn't have time to morn my parents deaths being so busy. Didn't even cry at their funerals. I have a friend that said after loosing his dad he pulled into the driveway and cried for like 2 hours.

I have this numbness that won't go away. Don't know how to feel or what to do about it really. Any thoughts or suggestions will be greatly appreciated.

Sorry for your loss brother. Has to be hard. Like you said what can go wrong went wrong n your still here making it work. Don't feel that you haven't morn. Just because you don't show it outside doesn't mean your not inside. You will never forget them. You need to stay focused on positive stuff man work n gym. Don't fk around with any drugs n be care with fkn females. Both can make it worst. Everyone has there way of dealing with shit man. But no u been through it so the only way is up n make your parents proud. Good luck bud. N no your not the only one going thru tuff times. So never give up. Stay by close friends true friends that will help lift u up. N if u need to talk about shit n don't feel comfortable expressing ur emotions maybe try a councilor or something like that because it's not good to hold shit in like that. best of luck to you n sorry for your loss again man.
 
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You need to stay focused on positive stuff man work n gym. Don't fk around with any drugs n be care with fkn females. Both can make it worst. .

You are right about the drugs and woman. I don't have problem staying away from the drugs seeing as how I've never even tried them...apart from AAS. Ha I'm old enough now to realize woman can make ya crazy. I stay focused on work and working out like ya said. I always feel so positive after the gym.
Thank you.
 
You are right about the drugs and woman. I don't have problem staying away from the drugs seeing as how I've never even tried them...apart from AAS. Ha I'm old enough now to realize woman can make ya crazy. I stay focused on work and working out like ya said. I always feel so positive after the gym.
Thank you.

Yea just went thru it with my girl after 8 years she packed her shit n dipped. Dislocated my elbow last year lost my job started doing coke. Got my shit together this year elbow doing good n able to hit gym got even better job n she dip like kinda hand me fkd in the head. But hey I'm in a real good position now feel good look good got hella money flowing in n own my own place so pretty much get any bitch I want now. N leave it at that. No need for relation ship anymore need to focus on my self bent over backwards for her ass but was never happy like don't need that shit n sure as fk not trying to try another relation ship after that def put Abbas taste in my mouth for females
 
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Yea just went thru it with my girl after 8 years she packed her shit n dipped. Dislocated my elbow last year lost my job started doing coke. Got my shit together this year elbow doing good n able to hit gym got even better job n she dip like kinda hand me fkd in the head. But hey I'm in a real good position now feel good look good got hella money flowing in n own my own place so pretty much get any bitch I want now. N leave it at that. No need for relation ship anymore need to focus on my self bent over backwards for her ass but was never happy like don't need that shit n sure as fk not trying to try another relation ship after that def put Abbas taste in my mouth for females
Amen dude. I was taking care of my x gf and two kids and she didn't do shit! So glad that's over. Speaking of coming back. Never really did a huge cycle...i feel one coming on. Lol
 
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