My wife

[betterthanu]

You should cut her head off and bury her in the back yard. lol
Just kidding. Get rid of her. There are over 3 billion women on this earth and you're sure to find another. also, don't commit adultery because you get ass-fucked in court.

 

[kemo]

I'm going through the same shit right now.... Just a few days ago I posted pics of my wife and friends... But I never said anything about our relationship.

I've known her for 5 years and married for 2. She DOESN'T support anything I do... she makes me miserable... but then there our kid 2 1/2 year old gem. I would give anything for his happiness. Does this mean I should continue to live like this? I even have to hide most of my cycles from her....

Love my kid and hate my wife....

Do you think after just 2years of married she could take me to the cleaners?

I need help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Any One

BigLibby....wow, rough situation. In my opinion when you have a kid you should try and stick it out up to the point you are ready to take a gun to yourself or your wife. Seriously though, the kid is the one that always loses....no matter what all the liberal b.s. says. I am not religious, so this isn't some "God hates divorse thing"....I just think we owe it to our kids to stick around. No matter how much you "plan" on spending time with them, you aren't going to be there for them in the little times. My daughter (5) stubbed her toe on the table last night, and came sat on my lap as she cried. As she sit there, we got to talking about why boys pick on girls on her kindergarten class......we had a great talk for about 30 minutes....all because I was there when she stubbed her toe. Times like these can't be had when you are only around every other weekend.

Think about it this way....would you jump in front of a bullett for your kids? If you had to endure a year of the worst torture for a year, to save them from 1 week of the same torture, would you do it? If you answered yes, then you need to rethink your need to leave for happiness.

O.K. With that little sermon said, you also do need to have personal happiness....and that comes from truthful communication. You have got to sit down and talk with your wife and find out what her real issues are. I bet you will be surprised. The problem is, women mask their feelings behind about 4 layers of B.S. things they hate about you. Example...."I hate that you don't pick up your socks"....masks, "I hate that you don't help around the house", which masks "you don't appreciate the work I do", which masks "I don't think you love me". The problem many of us have is we ask, why do you hate me so much, we hear "you don't pick up your socks".....instead of asking more probing questions, we spend the next hour fighting about why should we pick up our socks when they put the toilet paper role on backwards. Women are emotional, and tend to guard those emotions. They are not expecting you to take the time to really dig deep without getting defensive. When you do, it shows you care, and finds out what the real issue is. In my case, I found out I can still leave my socks on the floor as long as I bring flowers home once I week.

Seriously.....for the most part marriage can really suck. Men tend to be logical, and women tend to be emotional. To us, they make no logical sence, and that is because for them it doesn't have to follow logic...it is all about emotion.

We are all here talking about BB, and we probably don't think much about spending 30 min, to an hour in the gym to improve our body. But I doubt many of us work an hour a week really trying to improve our relationships...we just think it should "be good", or "be gone". A good relationship is the number one cause of emotional well being or emotional distress...which can have direct impact on our health. I think we should spend a little time on it as well.

WOW.....I just read over this and think I may have went a little overboard. Please don't think I was trying to preach here.....and please don't think I was trying to put anyone down. Each of us has to choose our own path.....I don't write this to judge anyone or condem....just to give my .02.

Hope it helps....

Kemo

 

[BigLibby]

BigLibby....wow, rough situation. In my opinion when you have a kid you should try and stick it out up to the point you are ready to take a gun to yourself or your wife. Seriously though, the kid is the one that always loses....no matter what all the liberal b.s. says. I am not religious, so this isn't some "God hates divorse thing"....I just think we owe it to our kids to stick around. No matter how much you "plan" on spending time with them, you aren't going to be there for them in the little times. My daughter (5) stubbed her toe on the table last night, and came sat on my lap as she cried. As she sit there, we got to talking about why boys pick on girls on her kindergarten class......we had a great talk for about 30 minutes....all because I was there when she stubbed her toe. Times like these can't be had when you are only around every other weekend.

Think about it this way....would you jump in front of a bullett for your kids? If you had to endure a year of the worst torture for a year, to save them from 1 week of the same torture, would you do it? If you answered yes, then you need to rethink your need to leave for happiness.

O.K. With that little sermon said, you also do need to have personal happiness....and that comes from truthful communication. You have got to sit down and talk with your wife and find out what her real issues are. I bet you will be surprised. The problem is, women mask their feelings behind about 4 layers of B.S. things they hate about you. Example...."I hate that you don't pick up your socks"....masks, "I hate that you don't help around the house", which masks "you don't appreciate the work I do", which masks "I don't think you love me". The problem many of us have is we ask, why do you hate me so much, we hear "you don't pick up your socks".....instead of asking more probing questions, we spend the next hour fighting about why should we pick up our socks when they put the toilet paper role on backwards. Women are emotional, and tend to guard those emotions. They are not expecting you to take the time to really dig deep without getting defensive. When you do, it shows you care, and finds out what the real issue is. In my case, I found out I can still leave my socks on the floor as long as I bring flowers home once I week.

Seriously.....for the most part marriage can really suck. Men tend to be logical, and women tend to be emotional. To us, they make no logical sence, and that is because for them it doesn't have to follow logic...it is all about emotion.

We are all here talking about BB, and we probably don't think much about spending 30 min, to an hour in the gym to improve our body. But I doubt many of us work an hour a week really trying to improve our relationships...we just think it should "be good", or "be gone". A good relationship is the number one cause of emotional well being or emotional distress...which can have direct impact on our health. I think we should spend a little time on it as well.

WOW.....I just read over this and think I may have went a little overboard. Please don't think I was trying to preach here.....and please don't think I was trying to put anyone down. Each of us has to choose our own path.....I don't write this to judge anyone or condem....just to give my .02.

Hope it helps....

Kemo

Damn Keno, YOU hit every head on every nail! It wasn't over board it was inspirational. Thanks for you time to write.

Last night we had our first meeting with a marriage counselor.... we talked about many of those issues.



Once again Thanks
BigLibby "Eddie"

 

[Bob Smith]

Excellent post, Kemo.

To anyone that is married, plans to be married, has been married, etc, I would recommend getting the book "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. Its a pretty quick read and full of useful info. Everytime I read it, a lightbulb goes off in my head about the differences between men and women (and people in general).

 

[Chip Bronson]

and don't forget 'men are from mars, women are from venus'. very insightful and practical book for both sexes.

that said, marriage is a lot of hard work, just like bodybuilding (if you're doing it right...). folks are always looking for an easy way. let's take more steroids. or let's take that new magical compound (e.g. igf-1) or let's try that new shortcut for adding 20lb, etc. but, there is no easy way, except on tv... you need to decide wether or not you're up for it my friend and what you're willing to do to make your relationship a success. sure you can get a divorce and take up with another woman, but that will only bring about a new scenario with it's own particular set of problems. there are no perfect relationships, just as there are no perfect people. but with a lot of hard work, understanding and sacrifice, it can be done. hope this helps.

 

[Bob Smith]

As some of the most successful married people have told me, once you choose to get married you HAVE TO eliminate the word "divorce" from your vocabulary. As Chip said, every relationship will have its own set of difficulties. Thats what the dating process is designed for. Know your partner before you get married. Ask family and friends what they think of your partner. They will more likely be able to view the situation from an unbiased position.

 

[spookaroo]

As some of the most successful married people have told me, once you choose to get married you HAVE TO eliminate the word "divorce" from your vocabulary. As Chip said, every relationship will have its own set of difficulties. Thats what the dating process is designed for. Know your partner before you get married. Ask family and friends what they think of your partner. They will more likely be able to view the situation from an unbiased position.

Yeah right.. Divorce got eliminated from my vocabulary as soon as we bought a house and had kids...

 

[anonymous_475692]

I might need to purchase a blow up doll or buy a dog. Shit at least dogs don't talk back.

You fuck dogs?

 

[bigstretch]

You realize this thread is over 10 years old right?

 

[ebkallday]

Wholly 2004 shit!!!!! I started reading the OP and was like... I never heard of these members, then I noticed the date.

 

[jaymaximus]

I started reading this and looked at the date. Shit this is old.

 

[anonymous_475692]

tbh some of these old threads are funny.

 

[greenddog1]

Just imagine 1015 years from now someone will pull up one of our threads and the reaction will be the same. WTF are these guys?

 

[CdnGuy]

Doesn't matter what year it is for me! Will never have this problem...cuz I don't believe in marriage. lol

 

[gator22]

It took me comin home from half around the world and a bad divorce to find my wife now. I have a good woman.. she is 9yrs older than me but you cant tell.. she is a good ol crazy coon ass that grew up down the road from me.. we have 3 girls and a 20 yr old step son i raised from a pup and i couldnt be more happier.. we been married for 12yrs and she supports everything i do and i support her.. i learnd a lot from my first marriage what to and not to do... but we are both happy and we have been through some bad bad times. That just made us stronger. Its 50/50 with us. When i first saw her i was like damn who is that.. i tried to get my buddies to introduce us then finally introduced myself and it just clicked. We been together ever since. I love her and i know she loves me. We dont argue about anything really and always have our kids with us... we tried once to go out with out em and turned around and went back to get em.. we are happy around each other and know what each other wants and expects.. marriage is work and about respect. If you dont do either then its no use.. you have to work at it.

 

[Ach3r0n]

I might need to purchase a blow up doll or buy a dog. Shit at least dogs don't talk back.

I've known my wife for 21 years, been with her for 17, and married for 12. I love her, but if her and one of my dogs was drowning and I could only save one, she's on her own. I can always count on them, but her not so much. Get rid of this chick and go the animal shelter; the dog you take home will be forever grateful.

 

[Ach3r0n]

BigLibby....wow, rough situation. In my opinion when you have a kid you should try and stick it out up to the point you are ready to take a gun to yourself or your wife. Seriously though, the kid is the one that always loses....no matter what all the liberal b.s. says. I am not religious, so this isn't some "God hates divorse thing"....I just think we owe it to our kids to stick around.

You owe it to your kids to do everything you can to repair the relationship, but it doesn't do your kids any good for you to remain in an irreparable relationship. It sucks either way, but it's better for all involved - especially the kids - if two people who hate each other part ways. Let's just call it the lesser of two evils.

As an aside, my dad literally tried to kill my mom and they split before I was even born. My mom then re-married when I was 3-4 y/o and that relationship went south fast. However, they did as you said - they stuck it out for the kids even though they hated each other. I recall a lot of arguments in which my step-brother and I somehow became weapons the would use against each other. I recall my mom assaulting my dad on numerous occasions, including one in which she actually sliced his wrist open with a steak knife. You know what I don't recall? I don't recall ever being thankful that these two people that hated each other stuck together.

 

[MindlessWork]

Wholly 2004 shit!!!!! I started reading the OP and was like... I never heard of these members, then I noticed the date.

You must been a college student back then lol, but yes this is such an old thread but the topic sure seems relevant to today.

 

[ebkallday]

You must been a college student back then lol, but yes this is such an old thread but the topic sure seems relevant to today.

Yep, I was cleaning dudes up on the wrestling mats back then. I miss college, Shit was much more simple. Eat, pussy, workout.... and went to class sometimes. I had a real nice schedule. Lol.

 

[MindlessWork]

Yep, I was cleaning dudes up on the wrestling mats back then. I miss college, Shit was much more simple. Eat, pussy, workout.... and went to class sometimes. I had a real nice schedule. Lol.

College life was a breeze for me too and bet you'd want to wrestle now haha