Not an ideal situation but you really cant hold the source 100% liable. Maybe if the source heavily discounts the next order due to not following your request?It's different here in australia. But i understand your point, my review was not meant to necessarily attack anyone, it was to outline my problem.
Do you camp outside the drophouse for the 4hr delivery period?
You need to get a parcel locker with a fake ID , sorry I can't help you in that department but good luck on getting this resolved.