@SymBiotics - obviously you will weigh your options and do what you feel is best for your and your family.
I will parrot the other responses in saying that going private does seem like a viable option for sure. And seems to surely limit the amount of bullshit you are / could be exposed to.
I know many sources that like you to include your forum name when ordering. I believe that might be a good idea as well, so if something so ridiculous like this would occur the person can be outed, and we the community can release the hounds of hell upon him. Also, other sources could be made aware to not allow such person the benefit from ordering from them either, thus completely just blackballing the member.
I personally mention to sources my "handle" in case they want to perform some sorta background check on me first by seeing some of my posts, or what ever.
At any rate.... hope you and your loved ones have a safe and happy 4TH of July.