It sounds fucked up but Im kinda like this with my dad. I love him but theres some resentments I cant get over. He has been babied his whole life by his parents. My whole life my grandparents bought our school clothes, bought my dad cars, paid his mortgage, etc. This is all living several states away from them. Then he got on drugs when my mom split, meth, and then he went off the deep end and left us so we moved with our grandparents in cali. He eventually made his way out there too, still on drugs of course until I was mid
20s. He would steal money from me, jacked my hub cabs and jacked all my weed plants once. He would always have the cops come to my grandmas, shit was embarrasing when the helicopter was saying his name in our neighborhood. Cant count how many times Ive seen him cook meth in the garage.
When he finally got off drugs my uncle gave him a posh job sitting at home all day. My grandparents got him a truck and nice house and paid for his wedding. They always took him in and gave him whatever he wanted. However, when I needed a place to stay he gave me month to get back on my feet before he kicked me to the curb.
Nowadays he doesnt remember any of that shit. He talks down to me like Im a disappointment all while hes drunk everyday. I still bring my kids over and never bring up any of the old shit, but its still in the back of my mind. I never say anything because deep down inside I feel bad for him. Hs played the victim card so long its hard to get it out of my head.
Im the polar opposite from my dad too. Bought my house with cash when I was 29. Own all my cars, paid for all my own shit and dont get help from anyone. But in the end you cant choose who youre family is. Thats my rant.
Ozzy619----Your dad sounds just like one of my sisters Ozzy ; got divorced at 28 (because she was a druggie & a slob) moved in with my parents , who bought her a house down the street from them , and multiple cars that she wrecks . She would party everyday while my parents raised her children . Multiple partners , all addicts , all hours of the night .
Now she's got herself into several wrecks that has left her immobile and bed-ridden because taking pain pills is easier than physical therapy . And my parents pick-up her bills and baby her and feel sorry for her .Its sickening to see a 50 yr old whine because the world "delt her a bad hand" or she "cant get a break" ....shes had more opportunity to get right than most , but shes always took the path to least resistance.
Now her kids are in their late 20"s and hate her and resent her and "she dont know why" ? Because you werent there you stupid bitch , you were high while the world kept turning , the world doesnt wait for you to get your shit together , it keeps moving on ! And you got to move on with it . Grow up and live or die frustrated , thats the choice she has...My Rant .