Orgasm ..help!

[OmL]

I always find this funny, I get high prolactin from 500mg testosterone. When we’re teens and even 20’s, we seem to think lasting ages is brilliant and even desirable. But Jesus Christ, banging away at something for 30-40-50 minutes with no end in sight is frustrating as hell on all parties involved.

And it gets so much worse when the Tren is calling the shots.

 

[jJjburton]

I always find this funny, I get high prolactin from 500mg testosterone. When we’re teens and even 20’s, we seem to think lasting ages is brilliant and even desirable. But Jesus Christ, banging away at something for 30-40-50 minutes with no end in sight is frustrating as hell on all parties involved.

And it gets so much worse when the Tren is calling the shots.

Those who i have been with actually like both, sometimes fast because it makes them feel like they are extra attractive, and sometimes long because sometimes they need a good freaking. So even better doing it 2 times once fast and once long. Hit all the spots

 

[Demondosage]

Bros I got a bad case of anxiety right now and I need advice ASAP. Talking to a woman I knew when I was young, shes single now. Got issues, but I can deal with em. But now I have an old issue that somehow disappear....reappear! I take xanax as needed. For years I just pop one 1/2 mg in the morning and go about my business.

Almost 5 yrs ago I moved one in and I couldnt cum to save my ass. The only way is if she used a lot of hand and blew me. Doc thought prostate and gave me antibiotics. But it didnt work. Tryin to keep this short and sweet. Nothing wrong with prostate, it was the xanax. So I started using it like I was supposed to, as needed. Threw her dumb ass out and the first woman I railed BOOM like a fuckin geyser!

Fast forward...past few women there have been times I couldnt cum. But we worked through it. Past month works been hell, I switched to 3rd(over night) shift, and I been noticing if I rub one out its taking forever. Due to stated stress, I been taking 2-3 1/2mg xanax per day. Now I am supposed to reconnect with this woman this weekend and im a wreck!

I dont know what to do. I cant just up and stop xanax cause if potential withdrawal....its only 1/2mg but I been taking them for 8 yrs now...nothing else would touch the spells of anxiety. How the hell can I fix the orgasm issue?? Anyone else go through it?? I keep thinking ill end up not even getting it up if I keep worrying about potentially not being able to cum!

FUCK ME!

Get off Xanax. I was on it for 4 years straight and I finally kicked it when my wife told me my dick didn’t feel as hard as it used to. That’s all I needed to hear to end that shit real quick! How did I end it you might ask? Simple, I stopped taking it, I stayed awake for the better part of 2 weeks absolutely miserable as fuck, and I ended it!!! I was using 4-6mg per day, you’re talking abt not being able to kick 1/2mg? My man, I kicked 3 Xanax bars a day addiction, you can kick it if you wanted to stop bad enough.

Shit fucked with my balance, my memory, being able to get full on erections, benzo drugs are just bad news. Another thing that helped me stop was being honest with myself and knowing that I wasn’t in the same place I was in when I got the script. The drug eventually becomes your anxiety, as you are experiencing rt now. Wake up and realize this and end the shit

 

[Rickt]

Been there brotha. The bad thing about performance anxiety is that it is a self defeating spiral. The more you think about it, the more you think about it, and then the worse you perform.

There is one thing that's helped me several times...and this is going to sound REALLY bad...but in my head I treat the girl like she is a worthless slut. Even if I really don't believe it! In my mind I'm thinking that this woman is just a hole to fuck and she is there for MY entertainment.

What this does is take the pressure off you. When you have performance anxiety, you are focused too much on pleasing her. Your thoughts race and think that you may not be good enough.

Turn that around by going in to it with the firm belief that she is there to please you. She must work for your approval. Command her to do things that are going to please you. In reality, she will love that you're taking charge. And your mind will fall in to the thinking that all the pressure is off you.

My 2 cents...

Or tren3times if you stop calling your sister by her name it is easier to blow inside family members.
Just helping out. No judgement here.

 

[TrenTrenTren]

Or tren3times if you stop calling your sister by her name it is easier to blow inside family members.
Just helping out. No judgement here.

I'm from Kentucky. Its ok.

 

[Rickt]

I'm from Kentucky. Its ok.

Sure. Its more of a concern what you do with chickens. Not talking about deep frying.

 

[phenominal34]

How?

If they haven't fucked for 5 years, she won't remember exactly his sound effects and shaking, and can't see his face and eyes if he do her from behind. Is she going to inspect the condom to see how much liquid is in there?
If no condom, as long as there's a lot if slimy saliva and lubricant all around her pussy, it's not that easy for her to see if he added half a teaspoon of cum to the mess. Not everybody squirt like a porn movie.

What she will notice and remember is whether he ate her pussy good and made her cum, ate her butt, pounded her the way she likes it.

Of course if you Level Up like our resident TripleTren @TrenTrenTren and try to cum on her face, she'll notice that nothing comes out...

Condom yes, no condom .. not at all.

 

[TrenTrenTren]

How?

If they haven't fucked for 5 years, she won't remember exactly his sound effects and shaking, and can't see his face and eyes if he do her from behind. Is she going to inspect the condom to see how much liquid is in there?
If no condom, as long as there's a lot if slimy saliva and lubricant all around her pussy, it's not that easy for her to see if he added half a teaspoon of cum to the mess. Not everybody squirt like a porn movie.

What she will notice and remember is whether he ate her pussy good and made her cum, ate her butt, pounded her the way she likes it.

Of course if you Level Up like our resident TripleTren @TrenTrenTren and try to cum on her face, she'll notice that nothing comes out...

As much as I've been around, I haven't really came on too many girls faces. Normal girls don't like it. They either like to swallow it, or they want it inside them.

 

[1tank1]

As much as I've been around, I haven't really came on too many girls faces. Normal girls don't like it. They either like to swallow it, or they want it inside them.

Your perception of what normal women want is amusing. There's nothing "normal" about the women you interact with in this age of online dating and casual sex.

Normal women do not want cum on their face and tits nor do they want to swallow it and nor do they want it inside them on a one night stand/random fuck session.

Normal women will just engage in some basic foreplay and then expect you to put a rubber on so you can have sex in 1 of 3 postions (or all 3). Them on top, missionary, or doggy style.

Normal women will only start getting a bit freaky when they feel that the man is all theirs and they're not sharing him with other women.

 

[TrenTrenTren]

Your perception of what normal women want is amusing. There's nothing "normal" about the women you interact with in this age of online dating and casual sex.

Normal women do not want cum on their face and tits nor do they want to swallow it and nor do they want it inside them on a one night stand/random fuck session.

Normal women will just engage in some basic foreplay and then expect you to put a rubber on so you can have sex in 1 of 3 postions (or all 3). Them on top, missionary, or doggy style.

Normal women will only start getting a bit freaky when they feel that the man is all theirs and they're not sharing him with other women.

I don't have casual sex. I've said several times all the girls in my rotation want a serious relationship with me. They aren't just having sex to have sex. Very rarely do I have one night stands either.

 

[1tank1]

What she will notice and remember is whether he ate her pussy good and made her cum, ate her butt, pounded her the way she likes it.

But what kind of fucked up man would do that stuff on a one night stand or on a date?

I've never gone "down town" on any woman unless we are in a close relationship and I know she's "clean/disease free" and not messing with other guys.

 

[1tank1]

I don't have casual sex. I've said several times all the girls in my rotation want a serious relationship with me. They aren't just having sex to have sex. Very rarely do I have one night stands either.

Okay, I'll rephrase to "unsafe sex" but that's being pedantic coz what you do is still "casual".

Do all these women know they're in a "rotation" with you and you've got no real interest in ever giving them what they want (a real relationship) ?

And how do you know that they're not doing the exact same thing with you and you're just 1 of the "rotational" guys they're fucking?

Women are experts when it comes to playing mind games and messing with mens emotions....so whilst your "rotation" of women might have got you to believe they want a relationship, they actually might just wanna fuck you with no strings for as long as the fun lasts but they don't wanna appear to be cheap, insincere, and slutty.

No normal woman wants to be perceived as a whore bro...

 

[Hightower]

That's true. If that's the case, he may just need to work on his sensitivity. Anyone tried pygeum extract?

And what effect does it have?

 

[TrenTrenTren]

Okay, I'll rephrase to "unsafe sex" but that's being pedantic coz what you do is still "casual".

Do all these women know they're in a "rotation" with you and you've got no real interest in ever giving them what they want (a real relationship) ?

And how do you know that they're not doing the exact same thing with you and you're just 1 of the "rotational" guys they're fucking?

Women are experts when it comes to playing mind games and messing with mens emotions....so whilst your "rotation" of women might have got you to believe they want a relationship, they actually might just wanna fuck you with no strings for as long as the fun lasts but they don't wanna appear to be cheap, insincere, and slutty.

No normal woman wants to be perceived as a whore bro...

I agree. No normal woman wants to be perceived as a whore, except for *one* time in their life: when they are trying to get the guy.

The intelligent guys know how to keep a woman in the state of "trying to get them" for a long period of time. Then, the sex is magical.

 

[MFAAS]

You could TRY .25 mg of Xanax instead of .5. That may still help your anxiety while not blocking your orgasm. Benzos for sure block orgasms in a lot of dudes, myself inclided. Actually it is often standard in porn for guys to take viagra/cialis and then some amount of benzo (or a mild opioid like a little codeine or kratom, but this is trickier as it can cause ED more easily) so they can fuck for long time with no cum. It is a delicate balance though. Too much and they have to fake the cumshot or jerk themselves off while the chick sits there waiting for 5 mins until he is ready.

Overall long term benzos really don't actually help anxiety though. Your best bet is to taper down and then come off of it entirely and find other ways to cope with anxiety and stress.

 

[TrenTrenTren]

You could TRY .25 mg of Xanax instead of .5. That may still help your anxiety while not blocking your orgasm. Benzos for sure block orgasms in a lot of dudes, myself inclided. Actually it is often standard in porn for guys to take viagra/cialis and then some amount of benzo (or a mild opioid like a little codeine or kratom, but this is trickier as it can cause ED more easily) so they can fuck for long time with no cum. It is a delicate balance though. Too much and they have to fake the cumshot or jerk themselves off while the chick sits there waiting for 5 mins until he is ready.

Overall long term benzos really don't actually help anxiety though. Your best bet is to taper down and then come off of it entirely and find other ways to cope with anxiety and stress.

So true. I don't believe benzodiazapines are the way we battle anxiety.

 

[jJjburton]

So true. I don't believe benzodiazapines are the way we battle anxiety.

But dammit they work too good. They are evil in a pill

 

[pahick]

Is it hard when you masterbate alone?

Sorry I havent answer or updated yet...everythings been shit for me lately..

To answer this question, yes....until this morning. TMI but, I worked it into an erection but I couldnt think about her, someone else. Then I lost it, but I was so fuckin horny I worked the hell out of it half hard til I busted.

And I take 2.5mg Cialis every day. Could be lack of sleep, down to 5hrs day now...could be all mental, its a lot of BS to deal with in her past which I accept SO FAR, but took her out and im touchy feely, she was so into me verbally but only touched when we hugged a couple times(we didnt go further). Could be E2....could be a combination of shit.

 

[TrenTrenTren]

And what effect does it have?

Its supposed to increase sensitivity.

 

[pahick]

Get off Xanax. I was on it for 4 years straight and I finally kicked it when my wife told me my dick didn’t feel as hard as it used to. That’s all I needed to hear to end that shit real quick! How did I end it you might ask? Simple, I stopped taking it, I stayed awake for the better part of 2 weeks absolutely miserable as fuck, and I ended it!!! I was using 4-6mg per day, you’re talking abt not being able to kick 1/2mg? My man, I kicked 3 Xanax bars a day addiction, you can kick it if you wanted to stop bad enough.

Shit fucked with my balance, my memory, being able to get full on erections, benzo drugs are just bad news. Another thing that helped me stop was being honest with myself and knowing that I wasn’t in the same place I was in when I got the script. The drug eventually becomes your anxiety, as you are experiencing rt now. Wake up and realize this and end the shit

I want to, but I dont know how. Serious fuckin answer. The pills are 1/2mg, but in the last few days I been taking 6, so 3mg. Ya, not as much as you, but its hard. You get this rollercoaster with xanax, then it feels like it rebounds 4-5 hours later.

This night shift and woman deal at the same time is ripping me up! Im getting off this shift next week, medical note, they will switch me.

The woman deal, I care for her more than anyone in the last 20 yrs. If ever, but shes got a past thats really fucked up. She wasnt a prostitute or nothing like that, but she was abused physically by a few different partners. She has trust issues now, I do too, but not to her extent. We're not into this far, but far enough I dont know what I want to do. I am really falling for her. She texts me every chance she can, though im the one who usually calls. This morning when she text, I asked her where we're going in her head. Thatlll let me know how to roll from here on out.