kiwigear
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Yea my friends know.. Most my mates are lifters and 90% blast.. Gear use is pretty rampant in nz and its openly discussed in gyms lol..
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Anabolic Steroids
Telling Wife/GF About Your AAS Use
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kiwigear
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But obviously not by me.. I keep it low key as possible..
She already knows or she will know. If not, you're doing something wrong. Or maybe she's just not being honest with you.
Really. How is it possible to hide? Are the physique changes so subtle that they go unnoticed? Do you lock the bathroom door when you shower /change clothes? Do you have sex in pitch dark?
Really. How is it possible to hide? Are the physique changes so subtle that they go unnoticed? Do you lock the bathroom door when you shower /change clothes? Do you have sex in pitch dark?
@Millard Baker stealing my thunder.
I agree with Millard in that if you are using AAS correctly and getting the benefits out of it that you should, you are not going to be able to keep it a secret forever.
And then what will happen? You'll finally have to come clean and now you are a drug user AND a liar for hiding it. It would have been better if you just told her yourself to begin with.
The fact that I can and do tell my wife everything is a huge part of why I fell in love with her, and vice versa. I would rather be divorced and single than married and hiding who and what I am. That's just me though.
If your marriage cannot coexist with your steroid use, then one or the other needs to cease to exist.
I agree with Millard in that if you are using AAS correctly and getting the benefits out of it that you should, you are not going to be able to keep it a secret forever.
And then what will happen? You'll finally have to come clean and now you are a drug user AND a liar for hiding it. It would have been better if you just told her yourself to begin with.
The fact that I can and do tell my wife everything is a huge part of why I fell in love with her, and vice versa. I would rather be divorced and single than married and hiding who and what I am. That's just me though.
If your marriage cannot coexist with your steroid use, then one or the other needs to cease to exist.
RThoads
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If you are in a serious long-term relationship, she should know.
Mature real relationships are built upon trust and communication -- I would never want to be with someone whom I have to hide who I truly am and what I do. Likewise, it is not fair to her if you think such info would make a difference to her (she has one life to live also and deserves to make choices based upon reality not lies).
So for me being open with my GF is simply the responsible thing to do and makes for a better relationship in the long run.
Mature real relationships are built upon trust and communication -- I would never want to be with someone whom I have to hide who I truly am and what I do. Likewise, it is not fair to her if you think such info would make a difference to her (she has one life to live also and deserves to make choices based upon reality not lies).
So for me being open with my GF is simply the responsible thing to do and makes for a better relationship in the long run.
Bone Gristle
Well-known Member
That's pretty much exactly how it is for me. Even the pinning sites.
it works out pretty well. I give her meat injections, she gives me AAS injections. Life is indeed, good.
D-Ballin
New Member
I don't see how anyone thinks they could hide it from their wife. It's hard enough trying to deny it to the shit talking co workers and acquaintances. Trying to hide it from someone who is living with you, and intimately connected to you like that is laughable.@Millard Baker stealing my thunder.
I agree with Millard in that if you are using AAS correctly and getting the benefits out of it that you should, you are not going to be able to keep it a secret forever.
And then what will happen? You'll finally have to come clean and now you are a drug user AND a liar for hiding it. It would have been better if you just told her yourself to begin with.
The fact that I can and do tell my wife everything is a huge part of why I fell in love with her, and vice versa. I would rather be divorced and single than married and hiding who and what I am. That's just me though.
If your marriage cannot coexist with your steroid use, then one or the other needs to cease to exist.
Either she knows you're lying through your teeth, or you have more important relationship dysfunctions than your drug use.
And like you said, she's going to nail you eventually. What happens when she actually gets suspicious, and starts looking things up? The progression rate and general look is undeniable to anyone with a little knowledge. You're telling me that you don't pass another serious user on the street and know what's up? She might never get as adept at recognizing it as you, but eventually you're going to be caught in the lie.
My wife thinks my gains are due to TRT. I told her that in a sense I am taking AAS because my T level will roughly increased 6.5x. And roughly 6.5x will put me around 1300. However, my gains so far isn't anything to brag about (yet).
Budtastic
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I met my girlfriend while I was using aas she didn't really give a shit back then but she's a little against it now that we have a child together. Not sure why that makes a real difference but I'm not going to ask
mkulltra58
New Member
We are talking about a girl that knew I was on TRT but didn't realize I was on testosterone until months later when I explained TRT is testosterone, aka steroids. Not the brightest lightbulb. She also know absolutely nothing about fitness and what's possible or impossible naturally. She thinks my size gains are due to hardwork and TRT. I'm also only 190lbs and just started my second cycle. Now if I was like Mands and 270lbs of muscle, it might be more obvious. Currently, she is really enjoying my gains and doesn't give me a hard time about how much time I spend at the gym.
Like I said before and as some others have mentioned, it is very different when kids are involved. I think if it comes to a point where she asks me straight out, I will be honest with her.
jaymaximus
Pro
I know its been said, but you gotta tell the wife. If you dont trust her with this you married the wrong person. As for a gf, thats iffy. I wouldnt tell until I was ready to put a ring on it.
I wouldn't tell a girlfriend, but before she becomes a fiance, she needs to know. But a girlfriend? As many gf's as some of us go through, that's too damn many people knowing!
Frandeman
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If she doesn't know
You doing something wrong lol
You doing something wrong lol
mkulltra58
New Member
We've been together six years with kids but just got engaged three months ago. I have serious commitment issues, I know. We definitely have our issues in the relationship.
If I told you guys where we met, some of you would understand.
If I told you guys where we met, some of you would understand.
Str8Shooter
New Member
My wife pins me and she takes var.
We both hit 1RMs tonight on dead lift.
She knows we took the right steps to get to this point, being experienced in the gym, well trained, conservative and responsible.
I understand there's a set of variables with everyone, and fully understand I was blessed with my wife and I's relationship. We both lucked out, and have the "ideal relationship" that guys have been speaking of.
We both hit 1RMs tonight on dead lift.
She knows we took the right steps to get to this point, being experienced in the gym, well trained, conservative and responsible.
I understand there's a set of variables with everyone, and fully understand I was blessed with my wife and I's relationship. We both lucked out, and have the "ideal relationship" that guys have been speaking of.
Whoremoans
Member
Well now I'm curious as to where you met lol.
bull_dozer
New Member
True.
I am one of the rare ones that menaged to do a divorce in a civilised and calm manner, without fighting and thinking only about the kids. But in one of the civilised conversation i've had with my wife while trying to agree about custody, she did not miss an oportunity to mention how bad my steroids would look if we would go to court.
My advice is dont tell her, but man, be careful and dont let her find the gear and needles in your closet.
jaymaximus
Pro
i hope it was at the strip club. But she wasnt working there...you were
I'd I tell my wife, she will tell me to stop because if I go to jail, then she is a single mother without enough income to pay for mortgage (only bill we have).
Maybe I am not telling her because I am too selfish. I am willing risk going to jail because. Even though that would suck so fucking bad. No never want to go back. I can't imagine couple days without my son.
Shit, maybe I need to rethink if this is worth it.
I would not allow my wife to do ANYTHING that may cause her to go to jail.
zuum
New Member
Does your wife/girlfriend know about your steroid use?
I never keep secrets, I am also not completely detailed about it. She doesn't need to know details, just enough for her to understand any possible mood changes or physical side effects.
Did you tell her or did she find out?
I told her prior to doing my first cycle. I explained my reasonings of wanting to finally do one, and she was completely cool with it. She didn't dig into it, just appreciated that I kept her in the loop.
Was she mad about it?
Nope.
Did she get over it and accept it?
Accepted it.
Did it ruin your relationship?
Nope.
Any other thoughts on this?
I think honesty in a relationship is the most important thing. I think you can be honest, but also discrete. As I said earlier, no need to be descriptive or involving in the process. I know of some friends who have their significant others pin them. That's a no go for me, ever. You're worry about things going south and her saying something in court doesn't need to be that much of a concern if you keep her knowing the bare minimum. Saying "he does steroids" to a judge is just "he said she said."
Now her knowing your stack, or having access to take photos, or be involved in your use is completely different lol (IMHO).
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