Telling Wife/GF About Your AAS Use

[bickel29]

I was just thinking... a better question would be "what did your wife say when you told her where you get your gear from?"

Lol. Now THAT one would have some interesting outcomes if you really got super detailed with your girl....

"What was that, honey, where do I get ths stuff that I inject into my blood stream? Well, umm, actually - well where should I start - uh, well, see, I know this guy - he's a Ggrreeaatt dude, his name is Zman455 and we have known each other for a while now, and.... well ever since I met him on that Meso site I am always on, back in June, he has told me that the steroids he uses are insane. I mean, at least 3 other guys on that site say the gear he gets is FIRE! Anyways, Zman's uncle use to be a bodybuilder back in the 80's, and he brews it himself. By the way, here let me show you a picture of Zman's uncle, look how HUGE his forearms were..."

 

[kiwigear]

I think media sensationalising things like the chris benoit family murder suicide then immediatly blaming steroids made alot of females scared and cautious.. Ultimately i think it comes down to how solid ur relationship is

 

[jaymaximus]

I would also advise that when anyone tells their wife / fiance you get your story straight. Chances are youll still catch it if she finds out you took hella long to tell her. And no one can poke holes in a story or interogate you like an angry woman. If angry women were police there would be no unsolved crimes.

 

[Sampei]

I told her. She had to know especially because of my choice of not having children. She had to understand that I would cycle and not care about the fertility risk. I don't know if she is the true love or whatever. If she will
Be the one but she deserves to know if I jeopardise my health and if she is willing to stay with a man that do all of this just to look great and feel like a god 24/7 (or at least trying ahah).

What I mean is... Doing AAS is a selfish reason, one that could put your loved one in awkward position or leave her alone sooner then expected. So I believe she has the right to decide if she want to put up with the good and with the bad of AAS usage.

That's what I think that's what I did.
By the way she is worried for my health here and there, but like what she sees and she is in love you know... Women that loves you would do anything for you

We share a deep love for the gym, I met her there, she loves the iron as much as I do so she probably understood my choice even if she doesn't agree with it.


By the way the first that fucking caught me was not my woman... Was my damn mother... Came back home after 8 months of not seen her and dad... First thing she tells me: what shit are you taking ahhhh!!?!?!?! I know you are taking something!!!

Mothers.... They know their boys

 

[jaymaximus]

I told her. She had to know especially because of my choice of not having children. She had to understand that I would cycle and not care about the fertility risk. I don't know if she is the true love or whatever. If she will
Be the one but she deserves to know if I jeopardise my health and if she is willing to stay with a man that do all of this just to look great and feel like a god 24/7 (or at least trying ahah).

What I mean is... Doing AAS is a selfish reason, one that could put your loved one in awkward position or leave her alone sooner then expected. So I believe she has the right to decide if she want to put up with the good and with the bad of AAS usage.

That's what I think that's what I did.
By the way she is worried for my health here and there, but like what she sees and she is in love you know... Women that loves you would do anything for you

We share a deep love for the gym, I met her there, she loves the iron as much as I do so she probably understood my choice even if she doesn't agree with it.


By the way the first that fucking caught me was not my woman... Was my damn mother... Came back home after 8 months of not seen her and dad... First thing she tells me: what shit are you taking ahhhh!!?!?!?! I know you are taking something!!!

Mothers.... They know their boys

Im worried about my mom catching me too. No one else notices but she had an ex who juiced when she was in college AND ive gained almost 40lbs since I saw her in july. And she has no filter, she'll call me out

 

[RodgerThat]

My girl knows told her around a year in which was my first cycle time with her. There was no hiding it as I was game to keep up with her sex drive outa nowhere (it's too high for any man not on T lol) so ya she loved it and said as long as I'm happy with the choice it's all good.

Tried to get her to pin glutes for me she would put the needle about 2mm in then pull out and jab again and again after about 5 of these I said alright I'll just do it, don't know if she was trying to dork around or was hesitant with pushing the needle in deep from the resistants once in.

On a side note I am incredible worried that if we break up in a bad way she will hold it on me and tell people, I'm no fake natty but I don't need people outside of my workout and medical circle knowing that I partake in the good stuff

 

[RodgerThat]

Im worried about my mom catching me too. No one else notices but she had an ex who juiced when she was in college AND ive gained almost 40lbs since I saw her in july. And she has no filter, she'll call me out

Number 1 fear in life right there as I'd be deader then Bambi's father

 

[jaymaximus]

Number 1 fear in life right there as I'd be deader then Bambi's father

I havent watched Bambi in like ever. But I assumed he had just left Bambi and his mother because she was a b*tch and Bambi put a strain on their deer marriage

 

[tenpoundsleft]

I was just thinking... a better question would be "what did your wife say when you told her where you get your gear from?"

Lol. Now THAT one would have some interesting outcomes if you really got super detailed with your girl....

"What was that, honey, where do I get ths stuff that I inject into my blood stream? Well, umm, actually - well where should I start - uh, well, see, I know this guy - he's a Ggrreeaatt dude, his name is Zman455 and we have known each other for a while now, and.... well ever since I met him on that Meso site I am always on, back in June, he has told me that the steroids he uses are insane. I mean, at least 3 other guys on that site say the gear he gets is FIRE! Anyways, Zman's uncle use to be a bodybuilder back in the 80's, and he brews it himself. By the way, here let me show you a picture of Zman's uncle, look how HUGE his forearms were..."

Funny!!!!

I explicitly tell my wife - and show her the boxes of vials - that I get when I go to Asia. At my age, radically recomping my body, and growing, that's not realistic without assistance.

"Yeah baby, that creatine is some strong sh*t .... "

 

[theprodgicalson]

She already knows or she will know. If not, you're doing something wrong. Or maybe she's just not being honest with you.

Really. How is it possible to hide? Are the physique changes so subtle that they go unnoticed? Do you lock the bathroom door when you shower /change clothes? Do you have sex in pitch dark?

@Millard Baker stealing my thunder.

I agree with Millard in that if you are using AAS correctly and getting the benefits out of it that you should, you are not going to be able to keep it a secret forever.

And then what will happen? You'll finally have to come clean and now you are a drug user AND a liar for hiding it. It would have been better if you just told her yourself to begin with.

The fact that I can and do tell my wife everything is a huge part of why I fell in love with her, and vice versa. I would rather be divorced and single than married and hiding who and what I am. That's just me though.

If your marriage cannot coexist with your steroid use, then one or the other needs to cease to exist.

This topic is so prevalent in my life right now. I broke up with a girl a couple months back that i dated for 5 years and considered getting married to. i did not tell her when i did my first cycle, but told her when questions started being asked. she hated the idea of it and everything that came with it. she didnt like the fact i go to the gym so much and want to compete, but she figured its better than me mainlining heroin/cocaine on the daily. she is one of 4, not 5 people in real life that know about my use. when we broke up she said verbatim, that if anyone where to ask her if they thought i was using aas from here on out she wasnt going to lie anymore. She had no idea that i had told anyone else and when we were breaking up she was screaming at me you dont think anyone knows what youre doing? of course i do. and when people ask i make a joking comment about how i love taking pins in the butt on a daily basis.

fast forward to now, and im currently talking to another girl. she recently asked me if i used aas. my first response was no, immediately followed by a regret and told her yes i did. because like Bickle said, if i cant be completely honest with someone and trust them, they aint for me. she is a competitor herself and understands it comes with the lifestyle and didnt mind it onw bit. all of what Bickle said hits home and is the exact way i feel. if i cant be me around someone i love and care about, than its not really love. love is a two way street.

Tread lightly OP....

 

[bickel29]

This topic is so prevalent in my life right now. I broke up with a girl a couple months back that i dated for 5 years and considered getting married to. i did not tell her when i did my first cycle, but told her when questions started being asked. she hated the idea of it and everything that came with it. she didnt like the fact i go to the gym so much and want to compete, but she figured its better than me mainlining heroin/cocaine on the daily. she is one of 4, not 5 people in real life that know about my use. when we broke up she said verbatim, that if anyone where to ask her if they thought i was using aas from here on out she wasnt going to lie anymore. She had no idea that i had told anyone else and when we were breaking up she was screaming at me you dont think anyone knows what youre doing? of course i do. and when people ask i make a joking comment about how i love taking pins in the butt on a daily basis.

fast forward to now, and im currently talking to another girl. she recently asked me if i used aas. my first response was no, immediately followed by a regret and told her yes i did. because like Bickle said, if i cant be completely honest with someone and trust them, they aint for me. she is a competitor herself and understands it comes with the lifestyle and didnt mind it onw bit. all of what Bickle said hits home and is the exact way i feel. if i cant be me around someone i love and care about, than its not really love. love is a two way street.

Tread lightly OP....

Truth to be told, I absolutely HATE lying to even friends or gym buddies or anyone really, about how I got as big as I did (6 ' 260). I had a lady at the grocery store last week tell me she had a 20 year old son who loved working out but quit because he wasn't getting any bigger. She asked me what I did to get to be my size, asking what advice or pointers she could relay to her son.

It's scenarios like that where I give them the bullshit answer that sounds like a 1980's Hulk Hogan promo.... eat a lot, take your supplements, train hard, blah blah. And I feel horrible - ABSOLUTELY HORRIBLE - for not being honest and potentially giving false hope to someone that they can look like an AAS user without using AAS.

And my wife sees the disappointment and self-disgust in my eyes as we walk away from scenarios like that.

My point? If I HATE lying to some stranger who stops me in a store, how in the world would I ever lie to my wife about it?!

 

[Benny]

My wife figured it out at the start before we got married. I wouldn't tell a gf unless I was certain it was going to be my future life partner. Things get ugly in break ups, and that could haunt you in many ways. Being married now, I say share it all. My wife doesn't "like" it, but she knows that's part of the package that is me.

 

[Nutpuncher]

I would have told my wife if it's legal.

 

[theprodgicalson]

Truth to be told, I absolutely HATE lying to even friends or gym buddies or anyone really, about how I got as big as I did (6 ' 260). I had a lady at the grocery store last week tell me she had a 20 year old son who loved working out but quit because he wasn't getting any bigger. She asked me what I did to get to be my size, asking what advice or pointers she could relay to her son.

It's scenarios like that where I give them the bullshit answer that sounds like a 1980's Hulk Hogan promo.... eat a lot, take your supplements, train hard, blah blah. And I feel horrible - ABSOLUTELY HORRIBLE - for not being honest and potentially giving false hope to someone that they can look like an AAS user without using AAS.

And my wife sees the disappointment and self-disgust in my eyes as we walk away from scenarios like that.

My point? If I HATE lying to some stranger who stops me in a store, how in the world would I ever lie to my wife about it?!

i totally feel this. ive slowly been telling people who i trust. im not on your level of wanting to tell the grandma i see in the grocery store, or the guy at the Italian restaurant i was at last week that asked how much i lift. i just assume they assume i do. its more prevalent in this industry then we think people think it is. im with you on not giving false hope. but we all know AAS is just a part of this, diet and training and still crucial parts that cant be neglected. As we see on this site, new guys come on here expecting to have abs, be jacked and tan from one cycle while still under eating and with poor training regiment. So i usually tell them how much im eating at the time, my frequency in the gym, how long im there for and my sleep patterns.

 

[Burrr]

Chances are youll still catch it if she finds out you took hella long to tell her.

yep, took a while to smooth that one over.

 

[FootPound]

Dang, dude. I couldn't imagine NOT having told my wife. I mean: If I had to keep secrets from her, she wouldn't have been wife material right? I told my wife before I started TRT, and spoke with her about how I thought it was just the tip of the iceberg. Told her what source I was gonna check out, how much it was gonna cost, the firm schedule I was going to run, and how much our grocery bill was going to go up. Her response was: "If you get crazy I'll punch you in the taint, and while you're working on your meal plan, will you make me one too?"

I've finished two rounds of TRT and one other round of AAS. She fucking LOVES it. In addition to looking like a damn underwear model, the sex benefits are pretty awesome too. About to start another come first week in January. She actually put some money aside for my next cycle as a Christmas present.

 

[Throwback]

Told her months before I really ever decided. She did a bunch of research too. Picked a source....she got transferred before my first cycle and I didn't see her for four months. First cycle picked up 41 lbs. She couldn't believe it...loved it. I kept about twenty five lbs of it and by now two years later she's not only supportive of me but partaking herself. Really really cool.
No secrets here....but like someone said earlier, not all situations are the same.

 

[Big_paul]

I never tell ANYONE ANYTHING. EVER.

They call me johnny tightlips...

You never know when that gf or wife might become an ex and use that information against you.After a few years I told my ex wife and every time we got into it it was the steroids. Never again.

 

[kap73]

Number 1 rule in life

Never lie to people you trust or love.

Thats exactly how i am, my missus knows everything. I told her for that reason and also if i was to end up in a coma or whatever she would be able to tell the doctors everything

 

[Stas]

My wife knows everything!
She even reminds me to do my injections and she does them for me