WOMEN - ANSWER ALL - Q&A with Meso Ladies

[Devika]

MESO love gurus,

My ex (he's 20 yrs older than me), we dated for 7 yrs on and off. It was a complicated relationship to say the least but we have a LOT of history together. We've known each other for almost 10 yrs. He pretty much is the love of my life.
About a year ago we had a HORRIBLE break up. Mainly bc of my alcoholism. I fucked up. Badly.
He broke up with me. Changed his number, never heard back from him. I was heart broken, devastated, my life spiraled out of control until I checked myself to a rehab and started working on my issues.
Fast forward 12 months. We got in touch, we emailed back and forth. Every time a little more friendlier, but he wouldn't see me or call me. Still keeping his distance obviously.
I'm very persistent, especially when it comes to him.
I'm a total different person since we broke up. I'm in recovery now, I have a very healthy lifestyle, things are finally falling into place.
Well, a few pictures were exchanged. (You guys are weak when it comes to hot pics)
I'm very proud of my hard earned ASSets. I'm a hopeless exhibitionist and I liked the challenge. I knew I was gonna get him to see me. Little by little he warmed up to me more until we finally met up today.
That man still rocks my socks off.
The sexual tension was brutal. The chemistry exchanged was intense. We tried to talk about what happened, our life now, and some awkward moments of staring in each other's eyes in between. He said he still had feelings for me, blah blah. My entire thought process was disrupted and hijacked by emotions.
We had the hottest make out session. Passionate, hot and heavy.
Now, I'm running Anavar and I'm horny AF. I was literally dying with an internal raging boner but was terrified to even cross that line so fast.
The effect that man has over me is absolutely ridiculous and our sexual chemistry is perfect.
I've had the wildest sex of my life with him.
So, how the fuck do I approach this without getting hurt?
We are gonna work out together later on this week. Even though I look better than I ever have before, I'm a little self conscious my boobs got super small on this cycle. I used to have full Cs now they are maybe an A
I want to fck the shit outta him (excuse my French) like, angry make up sex, but the chances of getting feelings involved again are high and I'm just not sure I want to hop in that roller coaster again.

I thought we could "just be friends" but clearly it can get more complicated.
So, how can I proceed?

 

[Crystal234]

MESO love gurus,

My ex (he's 20 yrs older than me), we dated for 7 yrs on and off. It was a complicated relationship to say the least but we have a LOT of history together. We've known each other for almost 10 yrs. He pretty much is the love of my life.
About a year ago we had a HORRIBLE break up. Mainly bc of my alcoholism. I fucked up. Badly.
He broke up with me. Changed his number, never heard back from him. I was heart broken, devastated, my life spiraled out of control until I checked myself to a rehab and started working on my issues.
Fast forward 12 months. We got in touch, we emailed back and forth. Every time a little more friendlier, but he wouldn't see me or call me. Still keeping his distance obviously.
I'm very persistent, especially when it comes to him.
I'm a total different person since we broke up. I'm in recovery now, I have a very healthy lifestyle, things are finally falling into place.
Well, a few pictures were exchanged. (You guys are weak when it comes to hot pics)
I'm very proud of my hard earned ASSets. I'm a hopeless exhibitionist and I liked the challenge. I knew I was gonna get him to see me. Little by little he warmed up to me more until we finally met up today.
That man still rocks my socks off.
The sexual tension was brutal. The chemistry exchanged was intense. We tried to talk about what happened, our life now, and some awkward moments of staring in each other's eyes in between. He said he still had feelings for me, blah blah. My entire thought process was disrupted and hijacked by emotions.
We had the hottest make out session. Passionate, hot and heavy.
Now, I'm running Anavar and I'm horny AF. I was literally dying with an internal raging boner but was terrified to even cross that line so fast.
The effect that man has over me is absolutely ridiculous and our sexual chemistry is perfect.
I've had the wildest sex of my life with him.
So, how the fuck do I approach this without getting hurt?
We are gonna work out together later on this week. Even though I look better than I ever have before, I'm a little self conscious my boobs got super small on this cycle. I used to have full Cs now they are maybe an A
I want to fck the shit outta him (excuse my French) like, angry make up sex, but the chances of getting feelings involved again are high and I'm just not sure I want to hop in that roller coaster again.

I thought we could "just be friends" but clearly it can get more complicated.
So, how can I proceed?

In my opinion, you need to make the decision as to whether the sex is worth the possible hurt feelings in the end. I'm sorry I don't have better advice to give, but I have to be honest...you have some willpower! If that were me and I felt the same way about him as you described, I would've already f*cked the shit out of him, haha! Oops, did I say that?

On a serious note, if you can resist, stick with that. Like you said, you plan on spending time together this week. Go with the flow and see what happens. If I had to guess though, that sexual chemistry between the two of you just might take over, regardless of how much you fight it!

 

[Devika]

In my opinion, you need to make the decision as to whether the sex is worth the possible hurt feelings in the end. I'm sorry I don't have better advice to give, but I have to be honest...you have some willpower! If that were me and I felt the same way about him as you described, I would've already f*cked the shit out of him, haha! Oops, did I say that?

Hahahaha trust me I was physically and emotionally drained afterwards. I totally understood the term "blue balls" lol
I am just so terrified of getting hurt again. I have never felt pain like the one I experienced when we broke up.
He definately came back bc of the way I look now even though he says he still has feelings for me.
Maybe I should just take the approach of making him work for it. Damn it, this is gonna take so much self control.
I need to step up my femme fatale game

 

[RodgerThat]

Hahahaha trust me I was physically and emotionally drained afterwards. I totally understood the term "blue balls" lol
I am just so terrified of getting hurt again. I have never felt pain like the one I experienced when we broke up.
He definately came back bc of the way I look now even though he says he still has feelings for me.
Maybe I should just take the approach of making him work for it. Damn it, this is gonna take so much self control.
I need to step up my femme fatale game

All you want to do with him is fuck correct? Why make him work for it and prolong the emotional for-play of it causing more buried feeling to get dug up, just get to it be physical then pull your pants up and leave when your satisfied with the outing.

 

[Devika]

All you want to do with him is fuck correct? Why make him work for it and prolong the emotional for-play of it causing more buried feeling to get dug up, just get to it be physical then pull your pants up and leave when your satisfied with the outing.

No, i don't want it to be just a fuck.
I am pretty much still in love with him.
Just not very sure where he stands.
Even though I'd be happy to have some amazing sex with him. I'm pretty sure I'm gonna get emotionally invested. I'm afraid he will do what you just described.

 

[RodgerThat]

No, i don't want it to be just a fuck.
I am pretty much still in love with him.
Just not very sure where he stands.
Even though I'd be happy to have some amazing sex with him. I'm pretty sure I'm gonna get emotionally invested. I'm afraid he will do what you just described.

Oh my bad I got confused reading it because i don't read so good, dyslexic hard times if you think he is after you for your looks but he is saying otherwise then date, but date doing things you enjoy doing together clothes on and see if he's happy doing that before clothes come off. Maybe take out your pent up frustration at the gym predate so you aren't as anxious to blow off some steam so to speak

 

[Devika]

Oh my bad I got confused reading it because i don't read so good, dyslexic hard times if you think he is after you for your looks but he is saying otherwise then date, but date doing things you enjoy doing together clothes on and see if he's happy doing that before clothes come off. Maybe take out your pent up frustration at the gym predate so you aren't as anxious to blow off some steam so to speak

Aw I just deleted my reply by accident
Thank you for your advice! It's actually great. I'm gonna keep our meet ups at places were I can't be inappropriate like the gym. Can't damage my rep at my second home you know, so I better behave like a lady!
I'm so easy when it comes to him. I have a hard time keeping my clothes on when that hunk of man touches me.
I will def blow off some steam pre-post gym date.
Vibrators were such an amazing invention.

 

[TANGO.ECHO.KILO]

MESO love gurus,

My ex (he's 20 yrs older than me), we dated for 7 yrs on and off. It was a complicated relationship to say the least but we have a LOT of history together. We've known each other for almost 10 yrs. He pretty much is the love of my life.
About a year ago we had a HORRIBLE break up. Mainly bc of my alcoholism. I fucked up. Badly.
He broke up with me. Changed his number, never heard back from him. I was heart broken, devastated, my life spiraled out of control until I checked myself to a rehab and started working on my issues.
Fast forward 12 months. We got in touch, we emailed back and forth. Every time a little more friendlier, but he wouldn't see me or call me. Still keeping his distance obviously.
I'm very persistent, especially when it comes to him.
I'm a total different person since we broke up. I'm in recovery now, I have a very healthy lifestyle, things are finally falling into place.
Well, a few pictures were exchanged. (You guys are weak when it comes to hot pics)
I'm very proud of my hard earned ASSets. I'm a hopeless exhibitionist and I liked the challenge. I knew I was gonna get him to see me. Little by little he warmed up to me more until we finally met up today.
That man still rocks my socks off.
The sexual tension was brutal. The chemistry exchanged was intense. We tried to talk about what happened, our life now, and some awkward moments of staring in each other's eyes in between. He said he still had feelings for me, blah blah. My entire thought process was disrupted and hijacked by emotions.
We had the hottest make out session. Passionate, hot and heavy.
Now, I'm running Anavar and I'm horny AF. I was literally dying with an internal raging boner but was terrified to even cross that line so fast.
The effect that man has over me is absolutely ridiculous and our sexual chemistry is perfect.
I've had the wildest sex of my life with him.
So, how the fuck do I approach this without getting hurt?
We are gonna work out together later on this week. Even though I look better than I ever have before, I'm a little self conscious my boobs got super small on this cycle. I used to have full Cs now they are maybe an A
I want to fck the shit outta him (excuse my French) like, angry make up sex, but the chances of getting feelings involved again are high and I'm just not sure I want to hop in that roller coaster again.

I thought we could "just be friends" but clearly it can get more complicated.
So, how can I proceed?

I'd tell him up front how you feel and see if you can reconcile and be together if you love him. If he's not willing to give you another chance then move on, you are setting yourself up for a heartbreak here imo...either be committed to a future together, or cut all ties so you can move on and be in a position to start a healthy relationship with someone new.
You won't be able to be in the right headspace to start a healthy relationship with someone new if you are still in love with your ex but he's not interested in anything more than sex.

PS. for what it's worth.....there is a reason why they recommend not starting/rekindling relationships early on in recovery. good luck D

 

[jaymaximus]

MESO love gurus,

My ex (he's 20 yrs older than me), we dated for 7 yrs on and off. It was a complicated relationship to say the least but we have a LOT of history together. We've known each other for almost 10 yrs. He pretty much is the love of my life.
About a year ago we had a HORRIBLE break up. Mainly bc of my alcoholism. I fucked up. Badly.
He broke up with me. Changed his number, never heard back from him. I was heart broken, devastated, my life spiraled out of control until I checked myself to a rehab and started working on my issues.
Fast forward 12 months. We got in touch, we emailed back and forth. Every time a little more friendlier, but he wouldn't see me or call me. Still keeping his distance obviously.
I'm very persistent, especially when it comes to him.
I'm a total different person since we broke up. I'm in recovery now, I have a very healthy lifestyle, things are finally falling into place.
Well, a few pictures were exchanged. (You guys are weak when it comes to hot pics)
I'm very proud of my hard earned ASSets. I'm a hopeless exhibitionist and I liked the challenge. I knew I was gonna get him to see me. Little by little he warmed up to me more until we finally met up today.
That man still rocks my socks off.
The sexual tension was brutal. The chemistry exchanged was intense. We tried to talk about what happened, our life now, and some awkward moments of staring in each other's eyes in between. He said he still had feelings for me, blah blah. My entire thought process was disrupted and hijacked by emotions.
We had the hottest make out session. Passionate, hot and heavy.
Now, I'm running Anavar and I'm horny AF. I was literally dying with an internal raging boner but was terrified to even cross that line so fast.
The effect that man has over me is absolutely ridiculous and our sexual chemistry is perfect.
I've had the wildest sex of my life with him.
So, how the fuck do I approach this without getting hurt?
We are gonna work out together later on this week. Even though I look better than I ever have before, I'm a little self conscious my boobs got super small on this cycle. I used to have full Cs now they are maybe an A
I want to fck the shit outta him (excuse my French) like, angry make up sex, but the chances of getting feelings involved again are high and I'm just not sure I want to hop in that roller coaster again.

I thought we could "just be friends" but clearly it can get more complicated.
So, how can I proceed?

This is an interesting one. Ive had a similar-ish situation. I was with this woman for awhile, we were engaged, and we broke up because of my assholism. I was down, and was still in love with her (probably still am). I tried for a long time to get her back, she just ignored me. But while I was overseas she watched my dog.
So now Im back, I have to see her to get my dog and she wants to "hang out". As much as I want to, and I REALLY want to, I think im going to pass. It took me a long time to get over her and get to a good place, and even just having that hope may set me back. Its just not worth it...for me.

 

[TANGO.ECHO.KILO]

on a side note...I've had strictly sexual relationships before but the only way they work is with clearly laid out boundaries. Either "look Im not lookin for anything if you wanna have fun we can take it as it goes but dont catch feelings", or at times I've had women approach me just like.."hey this is my situation...I want your company but I want it on my terms, I will call you when I want to see and other than that don't contact me I can't have my life disrupted".

Point being if you aren't "friends" and don't think you can just keep it strictly friendly, you shouldn't be doing friend/significant other things together. You shouldn't be working out together, catching lunch, texting at night, emails etc....those are things that are going to get you emotionally invested into a relationship. I don't call my ex who's still in love with me to "catch lunch" cause I'm bored and want some company, it's not fair to her. I don't text her because "just thought I'd say hey hope you are well!" And the women that I've had strictly physical relationships with don't want me to show up with flowers, don't offer to cook them dinner, don't want me to call them at 2:30 in the afternoon when i know they are picking their kids up just to say "hey".
It's more like..."I'll be in Savannah next weekend"
"I'll get a sitter"
or..."can you come by between 2-4 tomorrow, I need help with some heavy lifting"

 

[Devika]

I'd tell him up front how you feel and see if you can reconcile and be together if you love him. If he's not willing to give you another chance then move on, you are setting yourself up for a heartbreak here imo...either be committed to a future together, or cut all ties so you can move on and be in a position to start a healthy relationship with someone new.
You won't be able to be in the right headspace to start a healthy relationship with someone new if you are still in love with your ex but he's not interested in anything more than sex.

PS. for what it's worth.....there is a reason why they recommend not starting/rekindling relationships early on in recovery. good luck D

This is an interesting one. Ive had a similar-ish situation. I was with this woman for awhile, we were engaged, and we broke up because of my assholism. I was down, and was still in love with her (probably still am). I tried for a long time to get her back, she just ignored me. But while I was overseas she watched my dog.
So now Im back, I have to see her to get my dog and she wants to "hang out". As much as I want to, and I REALLY want to, I think im going to pass. It took me a long time to get over her and get to a good place, and even just having that hope may set me back. Its just not worth it...for me.

on a side note...I've had strictly sexual relationships before but the only way they work is with clearly laid out boundaries. Either "look Im not lookin for anything if you wanna have fun we can take it as it goes but dont catch feelings", or at times I've had women approach me just like.."hey this is my situation...I want your company but I want it on my terms, I will call you when I want to see and other than that don't contact me I can't have my life disrupted".

Point being if you aren't "friends" and don't think you can just keep it strictly friendly, you shouldn't be doing friend/significant other things together. You shouldn't be working out together, catching lunch, texting at night, emails etc....those are things that are going to get you emotionally invested into a relationship. I don't call my ex who's still in love with me to "catch lunch" cause I'm bored and want some company, it's not fair to her. I don't text her because "just thought I'd say hey hope you are well!" And the women that I've had strictly physical relationships with don't want me to show up with flowers, don't offer to cook them dinner, don't want me to call them at 2:30 in the afternoon when i know they are picking their kids up just to say "hey".
It's more like..."I'll be in Savannah next weekend"
"I'll get a sitter"
or..."can you come by between 2-4 tomorrow, I need help with some heavy lifting"

You guys are the best. Thank you!
It is really nice to have some male perspective on the subject.
As much as I don't want to, I agree with TEK. I may just be setting myself up for a heart break and before this continues I gotta have "that" talk with him and set things clear.
I tried to fool myself into thinking we could just be friends but mainly bc I just didn't want him out of my life completely. After seeing him again, we both knew we couldn't just keep at "hey" without wanting to be all over each other.
I'm sure he is just as confused bc I know he still cares but our relationship was so dysfunctional, one has to think it over and over of its worth hopping on that roller coaster again.
I wish I was like @jaymaximus. You are definately seeing things a bit more rational than I am and protecting yourself. I am so happy to be on var right now bc I am 1/2 as emotional as I am when it's full force estrogen. No wonder us women are so fucking crazy. It's not us, it's the hormones (and my Latin blood)
I've had physical relationships like the ones TEK explained. It was so physical that not even kissing was involved and I would just put on my dress and leave.
This could never be like that with him. Yesterday he wanted to hug me, hold my hand, kiss me. That's as personal as it can get and damn it! my knees still get weak even after all this time.
You know that delicious feeling when you just feel yourself melting and pure euphoria floods your brain... Such a drug.

We haven't talked today which is a sign of internal conflict.
Relationships shouldn't be this complicated. It's so hard to tell your heart to not feel a certain way about someone.

 

[Bmae1]

RUNNNNNN!!! Far the other way. Seriously... Ive been in that situation with a man. That crazy, intense type of explosive relationship. The sex and passion are off the charts, but so are the fights and heartbreak =( We went back and forth over 5 years and there were a couple times we just agreed to keep it sexual only. No relationship, no calling, no jealousy, nothing... NEVER worked. Once you have that type of a bond with someone it has to be all or nothing, unless you are prepared to deal with that same type of turbulence. The last year of my "relationship" with him and the following year after that are all a blur of hardcore south florida partying..... The only way it was going to get better for me was to cut all ties all together. Good luck!

 

[Yeabuddyron]

Can a basic women ever be made into a freak. I mean you cant turn a hoe into a house wife but can you make a house wife a hoe for you...I'm a sexual deviant and the only women who are into that kinds of stuff are sluts which will get you no where long term. So is it possible to turn a normal chick into a freak.

 

[Crystal234]

Can a basic women ever be made into a freak. I mean you cant turn a hoe into a house wife but can you make a house wife a hoe for you...I'm a sexual deviant and the only women who are into that kinds of stuff are sluts which will get you no where long term. So is it possible to turn a normal chick into a freak.

Good question and I think the answer is no, you cannot unless the freakish side is already in them secretly. I think the same could be said for a man. No matter how hard I tried to get a couple of my ex's (who were pretty vanilla) into some kinky stuff, it was like pulling teeth.

 

[Yeabuddyron]

I think thats what ive found out too and it sucks. I love my girl a lot but im getting bored already and starting to think about looking elsewhere. She claims she can be that person but trying to be something and actually being something is totally different. Plus being on gear i really need someone whos down to get pounded on not "make love".

 

[Bmae1]

I think it depends a lot on the man. I would never come right out in full freakyness with a guy I just started sleeping with. Once Im comfortable and trust that person am all in, lol. So, yes, I absolutely think you can turn a "regular" girl into a freak, you just have to bring it out of her. Of course there are exceptions, some women are naturally bland. You should be able to figure that out pretty quick though

 

[Yeabuddyron]

Thats true too but it takes a special kind of chick to bend over and take a dick in the ass whiles shes cooking dinner. I dont think most wifey material girls are down unless i just haven't found one yet.

 

[GearGodess]

Thank you to my contributing beauties... love you all! [emoji14]

 

[Crystal234]

I think thats what ive found out too and it sucks. I love my girl a lot but im getting bored already and starting to think about looking elsewhere. She claims she can be that person but trying to be something and actually being something is totally different. Plus being on gear i really need someone whos down to get pounded on not "make love".

"Making love" is boring.

 

[Yeabuddyron]

You fucking right it is. I mean if i can tell my friends about what went down last night then fuck it i mines well jack my dick lol. I want that hot nasty sex.Its really hard though because she is really good to me in all other aspects just aint down for a good throat fucking. Shit sucks.