WOMEN - ANSWER ALL - Q&A with Meso Ladies

[evarthecaveman]

I need some help ladies...
Just getting my girl reacquainted with the gym after about 18 months absence. I'm tired of listening to her excuses for why she doesn't wo so I just told her she's coming with me at least on weekends. Nothing like forcible intervention

I got her on the same workout as me (weighted chinups program). Today was her first day.

I'm pushing her toward strength training and it's completely new to her. I actually have no idea what a women should be working with? I wanted to index it

On the big 3 lifts today she did:
Front barbell squat 70x5 (3 sets)
Bench press 70x5 (3sets)
Palms up pulldowns 85x5 (3 sets)

Then accessory work but for the sake of this conversation it's really irrelevant

What would be considered strong for a woman? 135 bench 1 rpm? 200 squat 1 rpm?

All comes down to genetics I think. I dated a girl who never lifted in her life and she could squat 185 atg and bench 115. Was crasy shit. My girl now trains for fun and works out with me all the time been lifting 3 years she can bench 135 and squat 225 for 8. I was with a skinny girl a year back who trained hard for a year or so and was weaker then shit

 

[GearGodess]

Ok I have a question. How do I get my wife started in the gym. She is always complaining about her weight and never feels good about her appearance. Even though I tell her she looks great. She always says she is fat since she got pregnant 6 yrs ago. I keep telling her to come with me. She never does and uses the excuse that she doesn't want people staring at her and make fun of her. I said everyone starts somewhere and will look awkward at first plus I will show her the proper way to lift. And if some one does pole fun then this beast will react. That is what I tell er. She still doesn't go and complains. Should I just say ok babe you're a fat weildabeast and flabby??? I don't want to hurt her feelings just want to get her motivated.

In my opinion, she needs to suck it up and do something and you need to tell her that.... next time she complains, rather than responding with, 'but honey you look great', say something, 'OK cool, let's head to the gym now, we can do this together'...also, evaluate your family's diet...that should be her first step. Do you have a dog or with your kids? Get them more active as a family...go for walks, bike rides? Just because she is complaining, is she willing to do something about it? That should be the first step.

 

[gator22]

In my opinion, she needs to suck it up and do something and you need to tell her that.... next time she complains, rather than responding with, 'but honey you look great', say something, 'OK cool, let's head to the gym now, we can do this together'...also, evaluate your family's diet...that should be her first step. Do you have a dog or with your kids? Get them more active as a family...go for walks, bike rides? Just because she is complaining, is she willing to do something about it? That should be the first step.

We have kids. And used to bike ride through the neighborhood. I'm in the gym daily and just hopin she gets up and goes. I get tired of askin. I'll have to start being Alits more direct. My kids are really active and I figured she just start. Our diet is good. She did surprise me by ordering the 21 day fix. So that is a start. Sha said she is gonna try beach body. I'm gonna make sure she sticks to it. Thanks for your advise.

 

[gator22]

Lol NOOOOOO!!! Don't do this unless you wanna be making your food and sleeping in the couch for a month lol.
If she's self conscious about herself it's understandable how she may not feel confident going to the gym.
So I think you should say something like "babe, I think you're perfect the way you are, but if losing some weight is something that will make you happy, I'll be glad to help you out and teach you a couple of things at the gym" then you can reassure her we all were noobs when we started lifting and you will be there for her every step of the way.
You can also tell her no one will make fun of her bc us lifters are usually too busy staring at our reflection in the mirror lol

Ok. I will try that. She will definitely laugh about the reflection in the mirror. Lol.

@jaymaximus i get told all the time I'm wrong too. Lol. I'll have to see if we have any spin classes around here. It's a small town and I never heard of one around here. She did order the 21 day fix and surprised me with it. I told her I was proud of her. She is my queen and I love her fit or fat. Lol

 

[dreamkiller]

Sorry to invade in this thread , Ive been waiting for my princess on gear , give each other shots ughhh cant seem to find her but i can dream...

 

[GearGodess]

Sorry to invade in this thread , Ive been waiting for my princess on gear , give each other shots ughhh cant seem to find her but i can dream...

They are out there ; ) Just gotta keep looking...

 

[dreamkiller]

WOW you replied , thanks very much and nice to meet you geargodess!!

 

[dreamkiller]

Ok so heres my last 2 problems. Ive meet 2 diffrent girls at diffrent gyms ( not at the same time of course ) dated them about 3-4 mounths a piece loved it they loved found out about my gear head living selfe all went sour ...

 

[Sampei]

In English?

 

[GearGodess]

Ok so heres my last 2 problems. Ive meet 2 diffrent girls at diffrent gyms ( not at the same time of course ) dated them about 3-4 mounths a piece loved it they loved found out about my gear head living selfe all went sour ...

Haha trying to decode this... lol... there has to be more to this... were you using steroids as an excuse to act like a total dick? What didn't they like? How did they find out?

 

[dreamkiller]

Lol no not a dick . I Was like can you pin me ? ( she awnsered "huh") then i told her she was like wow , never texted me back . After she pinned me , i asked here she said , thats bot the type she wants the other one . Well were were in my house and i just had it at my table ( i live alone ) she was just staring at it like she has seen it before asked me about it then ,( she gave me the i had an ex on it blah blah blah , So i thought she was gonna ditch me so i stopped talking to her for a few days then. Texted her back never replied

 

[Sampei]

Lol no not a dick . I Was like can you pin me ? ( she awnsered "huh") then i told her she was like wow , never texted me back . After she pinned me , i asked here she said , thats bot the type she wants the other one . Well were were in my house and i just had it at my table ( i live alone ) she was just staring at it like she has seen it before asked me about it then ,( she gave me the i had an ex on it blah blah blah , So i thought she was gonna ditch me so i stopped talking to her for a few days then. Texted her back never replied

where should I start.....

 

[dreamkiller]

I dont know !!! Anymore might as well just be like , you a gear head no ! Move around !

 

[Devika]

Lolz Dream killer, you're a trip.

 

[GigaloRob]

Lol no not a dick . I Was like can you pin me ? ( she awnsered "huh") then i told her she was like wow , never texted me back . After she pinned me , i asked here she said , thats bot the type she wants the other one . Well were were in my house and i just had it at my table ( i live alone ) she was just staring at it like she has seen it before asked me about it then ,( she gave me the i had an ex on it blah blah blah , So i thought she was gonna ditch me so i stopped talking to her for a few days then. Texted her back never replied

 

[Anonymous_5283746]

Sorry to invade in this thread , Ive been waiting for my princess on gear , give each other shots ughhh cant seem to find her but i can dream...

wait for it to come to you, in the mean time just be a girls friend first.

 

[jaymaximus]

Don't worry @dreamkiller, Im the same way. My first date with a woman is usually something physical / fun, some food, then her pinning me. 3CCs right in glute.

 

[dreamkiller]

Thanks , and of course im a trip . Im ussaly just friends with most of them ive dated . Just one thing lead to another .

 

[Trapmonster]

I'm surprised it lead that far

 

[dreamkiller]

Woahh , whatcha tryin to say .